Hi, I live here to. 200+ lbs., 5’5 size 14/16. Is that actually fat enough for you?

Why? Honest question. Weight is weight and size is size. But are there clear cut rules on what specific number translates to “fat”? Fatness seems more about social stigma. Someone or something in your immediate environment has told you that your body is too big.

I am “petite” in the US and would be considered slim.…

I want to just scream obscenities at you. Jesus fucking christ, for five minutes this morning, i got to imagine what it would be like if i got to live in a reality where my two biggest fears aren’t“she’s going to say no” and “what if she says yes???” because i’m well over 450 lbs and haven’t had positive sexual…

There’s no one right magical answer, unfortunately. It’s different for everyone. But my advice is to treat yourself with kindness, and take the time to recognize those moments that make you proud of yourself, and do what you can to create more of them.

In all seriousness, I really needed to read this article. I pretty much hate myself, and can’t see any future where things turn out okay because I believe all the negative things that have been said. I’ve lost a bunch of weight, and regained it all in recent years, which probably hasn’t helped, and I know that I’m…

Everyone is complaining about the definition of “fat,” and I’m just over here like, “Hey, I’m fat. Where do all the fat lovers hang out?”

Yeah, I get that. But there will always be someone heavier that can say, “You think you’re fat, look at me.”

Find a good therapist.

I’m kinda’ sick of this, “If you don’t love yourself, how will anyone else love you” nonsense that people spew. I think about the flip side: How can you love yourself if nobody else has shown you what real, healthy love feels like? How can I love my body if everyone else has told me it’s unloveable?

“I’m completely shocked that the substance of the article was ignored while fights broke out about who is or isn’t fat,” said no one.

Y’know, I am willing to bet that there are charismatic, handsome fat dudes out there who are absolutely killing it. But three years ago, when I slept around a lot, I never once had sex with a fat dude.

The only thing I’m glad for about having been a fat kid is not gaining like a hundred pounds in college. >< I’ve never known what it’s like to just eat whatever...

“If you’ve never fucked a fat person, take a minute and ask yourself why. Is it that you truly find their bodies ugly?”

That’s me exactly. When I was 135 and very curvy, I thought I was fat. Now I’m 195 (overweight but still not getting-dirty-looks-on-the-airplane fat) and I see that was not fat at all. I think part of the problem with calling yourself fat when you’re really not (aside from the points others made about not really…

I look back at pictures of myself in high school and college, and I get so angry that I spent so much time, held myself back from so much, because I felt insecure from being fat. I WAS fat, but I was just as smart and healthy and funny and attractive as I am now. Wasted time frustrates me more than anything, and I no…

Yes! I get that this is a touchy topic for people. As someone who used to be a little overweight, I did consider myself fat. Now I am definitely obese and look back at pictures of myself and can’t believe I thought I was fat. That doesn’t change that I felt fat by societies standards at the time. People are really…

Well, she is “LA-fat.” I live in Socal and many would consider her a little chubby. (Shrugs). Weight is context specific and if people send her the message she is “fat,” she probably internalized that.

I don't think you understand what I meant. People who constantly talk about their weight (especially in a negative manner) and who obsess with every diet fad on the market, exercise constantly to look a certain way rather than be healthy; that is a relatively new form of eating disorder. Bulimia and Anorexia are not…

Some of y’all are being super harsh with her calling herself fat thing. She’s in Los Angeles. I am a born-and-raised Southern Californian, and any flesh beyond model-skinny (and maybe with some T&A if you’re brown) on a female person is considered to be obesity out here.

I had to chuckle at “fat kid brain.” I grew up skinny and never thought about it until I started gaining weight in my 20s, and I have skinny kid brain. I can’t believe I’m overweight and can’t just eat whatever I want without gaining weight, and that I should be exercising, not just for fun but because I need to lose…