That film was excellent.

Because Americans have lowbrow interests in art?

In that “babble” about the complexity of desire, you projected sex. Cool way to dehumanize a person as a sexbot.

No. What I wrote about isn’t about sex (and I made that clarification).

I really hate that this sort of stuff takes so much of this blog’s space.

What kind of stupid headline is that? Constantly disappointed.

I feel the same way :(

Stopping was definitely the right thing to so. I agree with the other commenters that said ending the relationship sooner was probably the right thing to do.

I should ammend this with noting that because of the ambiguity, taking the maximal position interpreting “maybe” as “no” is necessary but it still confuses communication.

Is it really understood in every other situation? It isn’t. And that’s largely what the problem is. People often see soft refusals as negotiation or indecisiveness.

This is an absolutely horrible suggestion.

Something that bothers me about this “maybe later” business (on the non-sexual side of things) besides what you have discussed is that when it is used as a method of refusal that everyone is supposed to acknowledge, it ignores the complexity of desire and the situations a person might have to navigate to arrive at a…

Yeah, it’s really weird when people interpret that expression as something other than what you stated. Most of the time, I’ve seen it interpreted literally as a way to disregard the sentiment of being a thoughtful empathic person in favor of being a selfish awful person.

Sexting is totally corny.

People age, you know?

Have you ever considered that not everyone is you and not everyone shares your conservative hang-ups?

What’s gross about it?

Are you trying to dictate a proper kind of attraction? You know, whatever he’s attracted to is wrong? This sort of thinking doesn’t end well.

You have no idea what you’re talking about. If you think people in their 40s are in any way more mature or sensible or fighting anything bigger than their cable company, well, you’re just as clueless as any adult.

I really don’t understand how this constant shaming of celebrity sex/love lives is constructive in any way.