Ah, good point - my understanding was she’d been conned into sexual contact, but given the oddness of the law it sounds probable that charges of sexual contact by a device other than what had been agreed to were the only way to get the woman into court.

Ah, I did not know that! It seems odd that it manages to spread so widely if transmittion requires such a high amount of exposure, but that does explain why the UK outbreaks have remained in high density low welfare areas where dodgy landlords have crammed houses up to the rafters with people with nowhere else to go.

So basically, this acquaintance thinks that he is the guardian of your snatch and gets to dictate when and to whom you should open your legs for? Sounds like him casting you aside for not following orders was an excellent win for you. What a complete jerk.

Oh there are obviously women who are just as bad, it’s just that statistically you’re more likely to guys like this. The intimidation seems to be part of the lure for these people, they enjoy knowing you are never sure how far they’ll go or when.

The pesterers are deeply concerning - if they refuse to take no as an answer OUTSIDE of a relationship, imagine what they would be like in one?

I often observe that a lot of guys seem to think “no” means “force me”.

I should add, I’m in the UK, where we have strict gun control. I have known someone who says that her ex threatened her with a shotgun, however that person and the truth aren’t on speaking terms.

He started proclaiming his love for me in one tirade as well. I know I’m a good shag, but not *that* good.

For the phrase “angry sweet potato”, you have officially won today.

Which is why these guys do it - if you refuse to make them the center of your world, they’ll force them to be.

It is scary how common it is, aside from this guy I’ve had one ex rape me and another try to blow my house up with me in it. I think my upbringing normalised abuse, but I actually don’t think my abusive man rate is much higher than average. As you’ve experienced, these guys hide their evil well, and as a rule women…

I had a guy do similar to me, 6 dates and I broke it off as I found myself becoming increasingly intimidated by him and how intense he was being. I was super careful to let him down gently, told him I just “wasn’t feeling it” and from what he had told me, we had different life goals (his included many children, mine…

It seems odd logic that someone could only spread disease if they are settling in a country, and in no way could a tourist visit and bring all sorts of havok with them. The closest to health screening I’ve ever had on my visits across the pond were those little green slips that ask if you’ve ever been a member of the…

In my mind, I’m imagining the guy using “the government told me to do it” as his defense. My imaginary judge replies “if the government told you to jump off a cliff, would you do that as well?”.

Yup, the NHS inoculation programmes had almost eradicated TB in the UK by the 80s, it’s considered that the only reason we haven’t acheived complete freedom from TB is because of travel to and from countries that haven’t got a hold of the problem. Luckily Americans haven’t been blamed for bringing their pestilece with…

I was on the fence about buying Netflix, on one side we’ve got some pretty excellent looking content, the other, Saved By The Bell. Looks like I’ll just stick to what’s been ripped to YouTube after all.

We’ve not long since had the Gail Newland case where a woman was jailed for duping her friend into having sex with her by pretending she was a man (http://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2015/n…), I would guess that this sort of sex by deception could possibly be seen as a criminal offence in the same way.

Well thank god for that, I was worried I have to explain the show to the kids I don’t have.

I remember the case as well. The Grauniad had an article

If you aren’t fully aware of Ann Summers, the best way I can think of to describe it is as the Hot Topic of sex shops. This may help us understand the results of the survey a bit better.