yeah. It pretty much does not work at all.

Same here. If your cats were feral before you got them, or even if their parents were feral....good fucking luck keeping them inside. I wish I could, honestly, but they are so abjectly miserable that it's just not worth it.

It absolutely is insane. It's every bit as insane as child abuse, war, and everything else horrible in the world that's really just about power. You're doing the best thing you possibly can - not being like that, and listening to what women really have to say. Thank you.

Talking about these things always helps. I'd be happy to listen to your story as well. :)

Honestly, I would say the culture of slut-shaming exists because of a fear of losing power. Men - I don't mean all men, not the OP, not my boyfriend, and not many other decent human beings, but Men as in Men in Power, in the same way I would say Corporations or the Government - have power over women. It's not…

When I was 16 years old, I was already in college but still lived with my parents. For Halloween I dressed up as a fairy, in a costume that went to my knees and showed not a hint of cleavage (not that I had any). I went, with a friend, to the dorms to hang out with a few male friends. Some of their parents were there.…

Good luck! :) Oh one other thing - study programming. A lot of tech writing jobs require you to know at least basic programming, so even if you can't afford to take classes, teach yourself. The internet is a great resource.

For me, it was pretty much accidental. I took a lot of administrative jobs where I ended up doing some kind of writing on the side, usually either marketing writing or tech writing, right out of grad school. It also helped that I know HTML and can write websites. I landed my first full-time tech writing job because it…

a) The argument that beauty is a type of power is sooooooo old, and it's a red herring. It's not really power at all. Power to give someone a boner is not power, especially if you don't want to give that person a boner. Flowers also have a "spiritual" beauty, and so do sunsets, but that doesn't make them powerful.…

I did, and it didn't really work. But I found other passions.

As a professional technical writer and editor, I'll tell you this: it's easy to critique others' writing, but there's a good chance you'd miss things too if you wrote for a living. It happens. The ability to catch a single typo does not mean you'd make a good editor, let alone writer.

If you are just moving into a place and have not established a relationship with the landlord, or if you're subleasing, don't try to haggle the rent. I sublease part of my house to people, and when they do that I immediately suspect (from past experience) that hagglers are usually more flaky about paying in general.…

This.

I actually loved the movie. Most people I know have read the book and thought, Oh god another American classic I have to write papers on, and they don't connect with it at all. The film does a great job of making the viewer feel emotionally connected to the story, and I thought the did a good job rendering the…

You know why I like having small boobs? Because it weeds out shallow people and misogynists. Don't like my boobs? Feel the need to tell me that? Oh, good. I don't like you. Glad we got that out of the way.

Hey, I majored in English and my mom told me to go for it and helped me pay!

one other thing. The guy with the disgusting article about "good girls" starts the article by saying that "slutty girls" make him hope he doesn't have a daughter. Me too, random misogynist on the internet. Me too.

This resonates so well with a book I am reading now, an book of feminist theory from the '80s: Pornography: Men Possessing Women by Andrea Dworkin. Please, everyone, read this book. (and yes, I realize not all porn has to be like this, but most mainstream porn is, and that's not the point. The point is, the majority…

Is that a picture of you? Because both of the people in this picture are SO pretty! And that makeup is awesome!!!

Emma Stone, I love you so much.