I wonder if she’d been unconscious for other reasons - stroke, seizure, etc - how that “binge drinking culture” excuse would play

I wonder what kind of sentence - and internet comments - this dude would have gotten if he’d been Jamal Washington with a full basketball scholarship.

Terrifying example of entitled rich kids thinking they can “educate” the rest of society to fix endemic problems. Hey, maybe stop raping people first?

Men seriously need to start being more offended by the idea that the “average” dude can’t control himself. In vino veritas; a man who views women are human beings isn’t going to turn into a rapist after binge drinking. I’ve been the suuuuper drunk girl getting frisky with a suuuuuper drunk boy many a time, and when…

Part of me is interested to hear how his talk would even go. How is he going to explain to his student audience why he is there? How is he going to describe the actions that got him there? And I would love to see these kids shoot their hands into the air and be like, “So, you raped someone?” “No, I just got drunk and…

OMG this. I have two family members who are incarcerated right now for breaking the law. Their parents still love them, but they’re also of the opinion of “sorry son, you done fucked up.” They won’t let them starve or be homeless, but they’re not exactly saying they didn’t deserve what they got. NEITHER of the parents…

Alcohol doesn’t make you do anything you didn’t want to do anyway. It just removes a few of the checks. Maybe if he was sober he wouldn’t have raped her, he still would have wanted to. That’s what separates rapists like him from normal people, not alcohol.

I spent my 20s drinking my face off. I have many, many hazy Saturday and Sunday mornings. I managed to not rape anyone. My friends managed to not rape anyone. As a group we all managed to make sure that our female-friends who were usually out with us, didn’t get assaulted.

Absolutely not! I'm out there just rapin' every body and everything once I hit the sauce. Hide your kids, hide your wife, hide your doughnuts...

If I were the parent of a HS kid, and this rapist gave a talk there, heads would roll.

When they are talking about binge drinking, I think they are also referencing the victim getting drunk enough to black out, not the rapist's alcohol consumption.

I think the more accurate line - maybe not here specifically, but in general - would be, “Alcohol made me not understand what I was doing in the moment.” While a more accurate (and to me, understandable) notion, it doesn’t change any reality or write off any wrongdoing. Transgressions and crimes are still…

Just with any form of violence, you either have it in you or you don’t. The alcohol may be an enabler, but it’s not the root of the issue. This guy is a rapist, alcohol or no. End of story.

Yeah, I thought it was interesting that the Dad said His son would educate people on “The dangers of binge drinking and promiscuity” when neither of those two things were the problem.

Right. I love the part of the letter where she was like “Yeah, I was binge drinking and I got sexually assaulted. You binge drank and sexually assaulted someone. Big difference there.”

Your handseyness is not a good trait. Nor is rapeyness.

Anything less than an enthusiastic “yes” is a no for me.

Every time I read a report about someone being beaten or choked, I think about how long two minutes is when I’m stirring cake batter or kneading bread. It’s always longer than I think it will be. To imagine a child being harmed for that long, or for someone to have to look into the face of an attacker, is so…

I remember when Irreversible came out and people were horrified about having to watch ten minutes of the one-take graphic rape of Monica Bellucci. It was awful and incredibly upsetting; I barely managed to sit through it.

I was just thinking the same thing! What if someone stole his identity with a few keystrokes and voided his bank account in a matter of seconds? What if someone stalked around his house and took things of value in 15 minutes? What if a gun was fired and shot him in the head in a matter of seconds? 20 minutes can be…