one of the challenges here is that it is absolutely true that Christians are charged to act in the Great Commission: 

Oh my god who else are real good today? My boyfriends mom cooked and I’m food high.

Sorry to hear that you had to deal with such a rude and thoughtless comment from someone who clearly has never even heard of social graces let alone applies them. One comeback I’ve got filed away for just this situation, “I can lose weight but you’ll always be a jerk (clueless clod, asshole, etc.)” Let’s curse him to…

Thank you for this post. Even years later, it is difficult not to regularly blame myself for not having “seen” things earlier.

Another reason is that a woman who says, “He’s an abuser and I would never want him in my child’s life,” is seen as unforgiving and abusive herself.  She will be told she’s not “giving him a chance” to parent and that children need both parents, etc.  Societal messages are regularly coopted by the abuser and even if…

There’s an answer. No one wants to admit it.

Kinda makes you wonder just what “knowing” means.

Abusers act nice in public as camouflage. No one is interested in protecting that sleazy dirtbag who’s aggressive and scary to everyone. No, if you want to do abuse right, you first have to build up your Alibi Persona. The one that convinces most people in your life you’re a good person. The ones you aren’t currently…

IT WAS THE INTERN™

How fucked is it that you felt it necessary to write “I’m sorry if I seem harsh” at the end of this? I’m absolutely not criticizing you, and I’m fairly sure I understand why you wrote it, but good god it should not be there. We get groped, harrassed, stalked, beaten, molested, raped, and yet after enduring all this we…

Almost 90% of women who get raped know their attacker. As did I, as did most of my sisters I’ve shared testimony with these last 18 months.

I personally know this particular man — went to school with him, sang with him, carried on a minor flirtation and kissed him once. And while I cannot reconcile the man I knew in college with the man who brutally assaulted his wife in front of their children, and who went on to brutally murder her in her driveway, that…

Thank you for this. I have suffered from abuse nearly my entire life, and am currently in a relationship that can be emotionally abusive (I am disabled and am in the process of filing for disability so that I can stand on my own when the time comes).

This is such an important thing to acknowledge: you _don’t_ know everything about someone - and some of what you don’t know can be ugly. That doesn’t mean it’s not there!

You know how on the TV show House it was never lupus?

There is a saying (some say Japanese but I have no proof of this) that we have 3 faces. The first face, you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends and your family. The third face, you never show anyone.

Uh...no. Fuck that guy and fuck you for defending him. 

Oh shut the fuck up. No one knew had a gun and anyone would easily tell him to mind his fucking business if he butted into your transaction with some racist BS. You know who else might have had a gun? One of the kids. Where’s your advice for the fat racist to mind his own fucking business?

It’s never the woman you know either. It’s never the opinionated, happy-seeming, confident woman being abused. It’s never the happy mother, the dedicated wife, the accomplished physician. That woman would never be abused. She would stop it. She would not put up with that kind of thing. Her upbringing didn’t…

i saw that movie....