Because men don’t see the emotional work. Women are socialized from birth to recognize and respond to it. Men are not. The effort to bring men up to speed is exhausting. You talk and talk and talk until you’re blue in the face, hoping for one *aha* moment, and when it happens, they expect a freaking trophy because…

But part of the problem is that asking is part of the emotional work. Recognizing that it needs to be done, planning it, delegating tasks, all of that goes unseen.

He’s not. He’s grumpy at the idea that women can decide to show a little more skin on TV and still decide they aren’t comfortable showing skin in pictures. His thinking - You show skin *here* so you have to show it everywhere and not complain ever!

It’s almost like one is a fictional universe with a story and one is real life.

um. because it’s her choice duh.

What I wrote is much more far reaching and supportive of equity and equality in a sexual relationship.

Uh, this is gross and totally wrong. baseball is a metaphor that needs to die. Pizza for everyone:

Just gonna throw this out there cos it’s a situation that I’m dealing with at the moment. What do we do with the guy that is very focused on getting a girl off, but thinks that it magically happens if he gives an instruction like ‘cum for me’ or ‘let go; give it to me’? The sex takes ages and it’s good, it feels nice,…