Now, now: technically, she just said she has no way of KNOWING it’s not flat. :)

/s

I fully support you, but encourage you not to do emotional labor for those who do not wish to learn.

Never has the phrase “no opinion” rang with such meaning.

<facedesk>

Boo. Link now “private.”

I did, and it was a good decision. <clinks glass>

Typo: “And yet, as Jahren writes, nearly every woman she knows has, “been encountered by every single woman I know.””

Not to put too fine a point on it, but there were SEVERAL voice actors who played Charlie Brown (I know only because one of them was a childhood friend of mine, and is NOT this dude). Just sayin’, #notallCharlieBrowns.

Dear random Twitter dude:
1. Olivia Pope is not a person who can play another person; she is a character on a television series!
2. Kerry Washington could NOT pull this off. Gimme one of Omar’s holdup girls from Season 3 of The Wire.

Non-consensual ANYTHING=not ok.

That being said, there is quite a bit of research and anectdotal evidence that humans benefit tremendously, psychologically and physiologically, from hugging—for the right amount of time, and with permission.

I know non-huggers, and I know it takes a lot to work through it when it doesn’t…

Yep, they like hearing other kids sing...AND it may just be the parents who like the cleaned-up lyrics...

Unless you REALLY ARE hungry to know that you are understood. Then it’s like balm on a bad sunburn... :)

“You” should only be used when it is an observation (i.e. something that is a fact, that someone could take a picture of or record in some way). “When you use the word ‘big’...” “When you didn’t arrive home at the time we agreed....” “when you didn’t clean the dishes as soon as I would have liked...”

The observation of…

You’re missing the important part of the distinction.

It’s not “you never clean up” vs “I feel you never clean up.” It’s “you never clean up” vs “when you don’t do the dishes, I feel (sad, angry, frustrated because ) my need for (fairness, mutuality, respect, reciprocity) isn’t being met because I am the only one…

I know! I have one of those, too. He was going through a really hard time, coming out of a depression, and I think having someone in mind to be in love with helped him get out of bed in the morning.

He started getting a little fixated-y (“I like to PM you right when I wake up and just before I go to bed, even if you…

Yes. This. It requires communication skills that would be hella helpful in monogamous relationships, too, but you just CAN NOT have any success in open relationships without finely-honed and constantly-evolving communication skills. Oh, and plan on setting aside at least an hour per week for processing, times the…

Are you playing with words or is this a serious question?

People who “accept” something they have no personal experience with or understanding of are the exception, not the rule. Most people DON’T have or work to attain actual empathy for a “lifestyle” or orientation or identity that just...doesn’t make sense to them. And I know many, many poly people who won’t give a…

IMHO, even if it is done for the best of reasons, the stress of not telling someone you love/are close and intimate with, the truth is a burden that will be carried by both partners, nomatter what each actually “knows.” Either open it or stay monogamous. I just don’t think there is ethical cheating. But that’s just…

Oh. Then that makes perfect sense why you would publicly comment on a story on the subject. Case closed.