Haven’t seen it, actually. And the best answer I’ve been able to come up with is that LITERALLY no two poly relationships I have ever seen are anywhere near identical. So a “model” is hard to come up. What I can say is that effective, direct, and clear communication, and a willingness to look that hard shit directly…

Though swinging and open relationships have some crossover on a venn diagram, they are distinct, though they both fall into the category of non-monogamous relationships.

Vegetarian here. Who are carnitas *usually* made from?

More Than Two is the newest awesome poly book. ES was written when there was a much smaller sample size for poly relationships, and when the majority of them were in the gay community. Highly recommend this one...I’m a mono in a poly relationship (at the moment), and MTT addresses much more openly the downsides of…

It’s a false assumption that every open relationship has a “primary” / “secondary” structure, too. Also, people who evangelize ANYTHING are assholes. People who are truly poly know (mostly from personal experience with trying to date mono people) that some people ARE NOT built for poly, and that the biggest mistake…

Yep. All the yep.

No one who has done them claims they’re easy. It takes amazing communication skills and ninja calendar skills and a willingness to work hard and understand the needs of your partner(s), and how to help get them met. It also takes real differentiation and interdepedence.

Swinging and open relationships have some crossover, but are not interchangeable.

Don’t think the problem is expressing that there are satisfying alternatives to monogamy, for those who are built for it; I think the problem is asshole poly people who actually BELIEVE that their way is superior and for everyone, if they could just get over their hangups. You have every right to not want to share…

It’s actually already got a name and a LARGE number of partcipants. It’s called “polyamory”. The original textbook for it was called “The Ethical Slut”, and there’s a lovely new one called “More Than Two.” It’s not for everyone as it takes incredibly skilled communication, mad schedule-juggling skills, and a…

I assume she spoke only Spanish when she visited Spain...

All. Of. The. Stars. For. You.

Well.....sorta. Technically, he died from trauma from dumbassery, not listening and general being-19-ness. So the headline is a little click-bait-y, no?

TSwizzle didn’t get where she is just by being cute. She’s got her big girl pants on. I admire the little bugger for this badassery and I’m twice her age!

you go, you sapiosexual, you. :)

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
― Audre Lorde

hmmm...I am somewhat wondering about your proclamation, nopenotathing. If I am a straight women and all my gay women friends call themselves dykes, and the parties that they and I go to are “dyke” parties, etc, etc. etc, then I’m not sure about your proclamation of “wrongness” around that. If my dyke friends,…

This is disturbing to me in a way which I’m sure only has a name in German.

Now *I* miss your grandma, too. She sounds awesome.

EVERY star for you.