“So many men are absolutely no good in bed and have to be re-educated on how to be good lovers because of the miseducation of the porn industry.”

Not just how men see women, but how women see ourselves. Young girls look, too, and then they get unrealistic ideas about what their bodies “should” look like. Now we have websites like Glamour.com running articles for women saying, “it’s ok to have labia that are uneven, or large, or small...” How would any girl…

I understand if women do enjoy porn, or want to enjoy it. Some of it is just fine and sexy and healthy, etc. I’m one of those people who honestly just finds it boring as all fuck, but I can see perhaps being interested in the “real” porn in which couples tape themselves, for instance. At least that isn’t…

Porn itself is not necessarily the problem, there are arguments that it can actually help reduce sexually aggressive acts, but porn can vary widely, thematically, and right now there are a lot of troubling themes in porn, generally with a focus on acts which are for the benefit of male participants, and which…

It’s so knee-jerk, it’s hard to say if there’s any conscious thought behind women’s defense of porn. There’s a definite air of Cool Girl about it, for sure.

As feminists, we are very ON IT — rightly and productively — when it comes to calling out the warping effect, and even damaging effect, that images of women can have on us all. Calling out photo-shopping, for example. But when it comes to images of women in porn, the desire to be sex-positive and avoid anything that…

The idea that the vast majority of Internet porn is “empowering for women” is such bullshit, and such a bizarre feminist stance. Is it some kind of defense mechanism when women say this kind of thing? Kind of like, if they can OWN it, then they won’t have to look at how terrible so much of it is, and how it actually…

Thank you so much for writing this. Almost every comment on this article leaps to the defence of porn and most come in the form of #butnotallporn or #notallpornislikethat
It’s exhausting to find so many people on a feminist site unwilling to admit porn can be harmful and even to deny the words and experiences of a…

I’m definitely not anti-porn, but I will absolutely say that a lot of it that has crossed my path has been frighteningly misogynistic and purposefully degrading to women.

I don’t know what to say except I’m sorry and I’m thankful that you felt safe sharing this here. You’re not alone. More than one woman close to me lived through relationships like this, and porn was involved in their abuse.

I don’t know that I would call Mr. WildNights a “pornhead”, but he does watch it/look at it sometimes. I’m not sure that it has had any real effect on my pleasure either way. There have been things that he expressed an interest in trying that porn actresses respond to as though they’re the most wonderful things in the…

Seriously. I’m not sure how accurate they are (as is the case with any study), but some “studies have shown” that men who consume large amounts of porn can’t even get it up for “real” women anymore. They look at a certain very unrealistic ideal and no flesh and blood woman can fulfill that fantasy.

I think having all this porn out there WITHOUT a solid, comprehensive, science-included sex education curriculum in this country screws up both young men and women as to what they should expect their sex lives to be like and what they are expected to be doing/looking like/etc. Sex education should include dialogue…

My ex husband used to do the same to me, he forced me to watch porn and do the same things we watched, sometimes he used to force me to have sex 5 or six times per day, I felt like a sex slave. If I was sick or sored I needed to apologize to him and compensate him the next day. And I never told this to anyone but I…

While I’m sure her abductor would have been a monster no matter what, I do have to say I agree with her stand.

This is a good question.

If nothing else, it’s a discussion worth having. The knee-jerk way people will refuse to hear any criticism of porn, saying no no no, it’s nothing but empowering for women- well, it’s damn tiresome. My BIL was in the porn marketing business for a time, much to my sister’s chagrin. She said she noticed a spike in…

Yeah- I absolutely think that some porn can be fun (and we’ve always had some form of it as a culture), and also that suppressing/denying it probably isn’t the way to do. That doesn’t mean that there isn’t a lot of disturbing shit out there, and I am very curious about how it has affected how people 25 and under view…

I don’t think I can be convinced that porn is healthy for men. Ladies, whose boyfriends/husbands are pornheads, tell me honestly and not the “sex positive, politically correct, men pleasing” version, do your partners porn habits mean great/improved sex with better, more frequent orgasms for you personally?

I know this isn’t a really popular opinion outside of radical feminism but I think there should be a conversation about how early exposure to porn influences the way men see women. Namely, porn tends to treat female actresses like objects. I remember reading an article by a former porn actress who admitted that there…