Look, y’all don’t have to believe this, but she actually wrote me and thanked me for calling her piece ‘hilarious.’ Everyone processes things differently, and sometimes a humorous tone helps express something difficult.

I go back and forth on this song, but what always brings me back to liking it is the line “at least I’m gonna say that I tried.”

Someone on Twitter recently (I wish I could remember who) pointed out that, the way it was originally written and performed, what this song is really about is a woman who wants to buck social norms of propriety and stay with him but feels pressured to leave so she doesn’t suffer social consequences and stigma. And…