One of my favorite personal accomplishments is convincing our 23-year-old admin to start wearing earplugs to electronic music festivals. I’m a music nerd and have been seeing rock bands perform in small venues at least 3-4 times a month (plus going to SXSW every year) since I was a teenager, and didn’t start wearing…

+1 for Credit Karma!

“it will be colder in many cities than it was for last year’s march” amused me, last year it was POURING rain in SF and we still had a huge turnout, this year it’s supposed to be beautiful and sunny — I hope it means an even bigger crowd! 

I make about 3x this recipe in a large lasagna pan, obviously I bake it a lot longer, but I cut it into squares and have easy-pack lunches for a week. If you make it my way (very light on the cheese and all-veggie), it’s super healthy in addition to being filling and delicious. My favorite combo right now is kale,…

I’ll turn the question back on the questioner: How hard is it for you guys to just not be so difficult? Either (1) choose a very inexpensive restaurant that fits everybody’s budget (Denny’s serves breakfast all day!), (2) opt to get coffee or drinks instead of dinner with friends who like to splurge, (3) recognize…

Insufficient heat in the winter is bad enough, but can we talk about blasting A/C in the summer? Here in San Francisco, A/C is completely unnecessary in the first place — it rarely gets above 65 degrees — but on our few warm days, the building overlords turn the arctic blast on so aggressively that my rare chance to…

Did they give literally ANY thought to the problem of harassment here? As a woman with an unusual first name (I am the only one in my city, and you can easily find out where I work and my home address — if you own your home it’s a matter of public record — with just my first name and “San Francisco”), there’s no way I…

A practical follow-up on not having high expectations: If you’re using a dating app, don’t message each other more than a handful of times before meeting up for a quick coffee at a public place (or a drink, if you drink, but NOT dinner! This is just a quick meetup!). An extended period of messaging only allows you to…

As a lawyer and former English major, it’s very hard for me to use “they” as a singular and not feel a tiny electric shock when I hear others do it, but I imagine it will get easier over the years as we all get used to using it.

I was forced to cook for my old man Chase when he was dying of kidney failure and refused to eat the gross-looking, canned prescription diet. My vet told me his not eating at all was more dangerous than eating the wrong thing (he had lost a lot of weight by that point) so I took a chance on cooking a vet-approved,…

We aren’t the intended audience for the Impossible Burger — it’s geared toward meat eaters who need a convincing enough alternative to make them give up their meat addiction. Personally, I like the Impossible Burger, but I am even more excited to see non-vegetarians making better choices because the non-meat…

My mom was laser-focused on raising a child that met her expectations of what a daughter should be, rather than encouraging my strengths and getting to know me as a unique person. She wanted the type of “girly” daughter (like her) who would go shopping with her, get mani-pedis, live near her out in the ‘burbs, provide…

This might be a shock, but good people who have a lot of friends demonstrate that they like those friends by going out of their way to make them feel welcome.

The idea that this would be a second choice because you “can’t” go visit your family gave me a nice little chuckle, remembering that other people like their families. :) I had Thanksgiving with local friends for many years and it was always my favorite holiday — one of the saddest things about my partner being from a…

“Prioritizing 35 to 80 minutes a day of exercise is beyond the realistic reach of most of the population.” Oh come on — it’s really not that big of a deal. I wake up and go to the gym before work every morning, just like I have every day for 12 years. It’s not like possessing some sort of magic potion, you just get…

I use a variation of this to make a few weeknights’ worth of healthy, vegetarian dinners. I sautee some seasonal veggies in a wok and add spices (and maybe some parmesan or another cheese) and pour it in a large lasagna pan. Then I beat 18 eggs with the handbeater until they’re nice and frothy and pour them into the…

Women without kids have had to tolerate being called “spinsters,” “barren,” and many other variations on “not really women” and “something wrong with them.” This is the tiniest violin in the world playing for your complaints about “breeder.”

I just have to empathize — I once carpooled with 2 good friends on a 4-hour drive. One had two small children, the other didn’t. The beginning of a trip was an announcement that the childless friend was pregnant. Then followed 2 hours of pregnancy/childbirth talk, at the end of which I drove all 3 of us over a cliff.…

Same. I would like to see an updated photo about once a month without unfollowing them entirely, but there’s not a great workaround for that.

My biggest gripe is the people who no longer make an effort to maintain relationships. I get that parenting is exhausting and overwhelming, but I have longtime friends with whom I’ve made every effort to spend time: Offering to come to them (out in the suburbs), at whatever time fits their schedule, and making clear…