Getting the loan funded after we had been approved. Because we live in SF, our very simple house was still expensive ($1M+), which apparently added extra layers of complication, but we were still presented with fire-drills just about every single day where the lender wanted us to dig up some obscure, additional piece…

Thank you! Maybe I’ll give it a shot.

I’ve had a copper IUD (Paragard) for 16 years now (on my 2nd one, obviously) and it’s amazing. For me the insertion was painful, so I wouldn’t want to do it more often than every 10 years! I prefer not to introduce synthetic hormones to my body unless they’re necessary, so it’s been a great choice for me. I haven’t…

I’d love to know how this differs from the Softcup, which I’ve tried (so many times! I really wanted it to work!) but that was a DISASTER. It would always end up sideways/unseated, spilling the contents, and I would suddenly end up with a deluge of blood flooding out of my vag, so I had to wear thick pads as a backup…

If you feel you need to lie to your “friends” because feeling superior about your disdain for the gluten-free fad is more important to you than erring on the side of safety to potentially protect their health (Celiac disease is not the only legitimate, diagnosable gluten allergy, BTW), then you need to do some…

I’m not an antitrust expert, but I remember from law school that this style of bundling is almost exactly what has previously set off antitrust red flags with regulators. Presumably AT&T has done the legal analysis, but I wonder if their reading of existing law might be a bit aggressive. Maybe someone who knows more…

On the topic of preventative screenings, interesting that you didn’t mention mammograms, about which there has been a ton of discussion and controversy lately— especially if you’re between the ages of 40 and 50. Do some research and talk to your doctor about whether you should be getting them regularly, and what the…

Same but I call it “Apple Spam” and put it on the last blank screen.

Better yet, I’ve gotten gift certificates for movie theater chains that do not have theaters in my state!

I wonder if she addresses what I think is my best de-cluttering rule: Don’t acquire stuff to begin with. I aggressively enforce a “please, please no gifts” rule for every occasion (especially things like knick-knacks from my mother), avoid buying anything new on impulse, and when I do buy something new, get rid of an…

I think the key takeaways for anyone reading this should be (1) we all have weird quirks and can be difficult to deal with at times and (2) it is each of our responsibility to manage those quirks in a way that minimizes the impact on our loved ones (not by expecting others to re-calibrate in a way that manages them…

The peace of mind from not having to worry about eviction is priceless, though. I live in San Francisco, and sold my house 7 years ago and moved to a rental (due to life changes, not financial reasons). I thought I’d be perfectly happy renting forever, but after seeing rents skyrocketing and friends evicted from homes…

I think this is a little too dismissive of quinoa being a complete protein — there aren’t that many foods that are complete proteins and are also free of animal products, which is what makes quinoa special. Chickpeas, black beans, and pistachios are a few others, but quinoa is a staple that I try to eat a couple times…

When I was in college I sold a 13-year-old car for $1000. I explicitly told potential buyers, “Hey, I know ZERO about cars. It’s 13 years old. Here’s the records for repairs I’ve had done. Other things might be wrong with it.” The buyer even took it to a mechanic to get it checked out before committing. He then…

+100 on #3. I work for a rapidly-growing company that has recently gotten on many local job-hunters’ radar. I get so many “I’m an acquaintance of so-and-so, here’s my resume, is there a place for me?” emails that I respond to most with “Here is our publicly-available website listing our open positions [there are…

I’m in my 40s now, and my mom was a lot like you (and still is). What I would suggest is to really pay attention to your anxiety about his leaving and his “safety” (i.e. the “dead in a ditch” comment), and recognize that you need to manage your own anxiety about that — it’s not his responsibility to assuage that by…

THANK YOU for articulating exactly my thoughts when I read the original Dear Prudence piece! I’m in my 40s, and unfortunately, my mom still hasn’t learned this lesson. Over the years (and with the help of therapy) I’ve learned to set and enforce strict boundaries with her, but it’s exhausting, and as a result, I limit…

Covers a lot of the same territory but I recently wrote a whole long post on this topic: https://medium.com/@TheRealWBTC/h…

Thanks. I got really excited about Kindle Unlimited and then I did a quick google search and found “Why I Cancelled My Kindle Unlimited Subscription.” Sounds like the titles that are available just aren’t anything you’d want to read. Also — check your local library, mine does Kindle loans. There’s always a wait for…

Thanks. I got really excited about Kindle Unlimited and then I did a quick google search and found “Why I Cancelled…

Just FYI, when you click through the label maker is $25, not $10.

Just FYI, when you click through the label maker is $25, not $10.