You should stop telling people to “fuck off’ and stop telling me what I can and cannot compare. Analogy is an analytical device, they need not be perfect to be useful.

Why not compare them? There are many reasons that can lead a person to feel trapped and do something that they know is wrong. Of course I’m not saying that all these cases are sympathetic, and I’m not really focused on Ashley Madison, I’m talking about why people cheat in the first place—the method and medium is…

Fuck off? Aren't you an intelligent gem.

If your partner has a long-term debilitating illness that means all sexual activity is heretofore off the table, which is the better option: the healthy person foregoing sex ever again whilst taking care of their partner, leaving their partner entirely for someone else, or discreetly getting their needs tended to…

You do get that a societal default influences how comfortable people feel coming out or even acknowledging their true selves? Remember when being straight was the default? How many gay men and women married opposite sex partners, grew old with them, had kids, and probably had a ton of same sex affairs? Probably so…

I am willing to bet that a decent number of Ashley Madison account holders never act on it. Probably the thing I miss most now that I am a boring monogamous person is that initial flirtation and meeting with someone new. How exciting it was to get to know a new person, right before you discovered what an unbearable…

My original comment is the second comment in this whole thread, way up there at the top and it was exactly what I just said. You’re replying to a comment further down in the chain. I never changed my position.

My point was how pervasive it is and I completely agree with being accountable.I have said repeatedly in this thread that I am hoping people use this as a way to start an open honest dialog with their partners.

Well that zero person was right, I am going to agree to disagree and move on.

I didn’t specify monogamy but since adultery was punishable by death it’s definitely a puritanical value. Look up what the Puritans believed if you don’t believe me.

Her point is that just because a doctor is tall, it doesn’t mean all doctors are tall. I don’t really view what you said as you trying to assert a logical conclusion and I believe that’s the disconnect. I took it to mean you were saying that with the significant number of people on that site, there are probably a lot…

Ah no need to apologize, there’s been a lot of misunderstanding going on, I responded defensively. As for the zip code thing, I don’t think it’s evidence of anything, it’s just a lot of people signed up on that site, which is depressing. As a result of this, I hope that there are conversations going on that are…

Let’s try to clear this up even if the end result is we agree to disagree. I do not care if I am right or wrong, I am not trying to die on a hill for a quick comment I made and to which you seem to have taken great personal offense.

This is the post in question
“Plenty of people are very happy in monogamous…

This is such an important comment, and it covers so much ground.

I think that people who are actually unhappy in their lives become defensive.

I have the deepest sympathy for those in open marriages who respectfully arranged to be discreet. They did not deserve this.

It’s awesome that it works for you, I wish everyone could have an open dialog with their spouses.

How are people so confused on what Gloria said? We are a heteronormative monogamous culture. Well at least that’s what’s held up as the ideal from the time when we can understand these things. How can so many who comment regularly on this site be so dense as to not realize that our culture does not promote diversity…

The OP did not say cheating was good or even acceptable, no matter how many times they say that was her point. I think there are probably more than a few people on this thread who have been cheated on, it’s the only thing that would make their posts make sense.

Agreed, completely. I’ve been really surprised by the vehemence over the hack here at Gawker.