I’ve been struggling to put into words why I have a soft spot for Kanye and I think you just did it. He’s an asshole in the way small children are assholes.

As an ex-software technician myself, my problem is this: What in the heck do they think they mean by ‘coding?’

Absolutely. There's so much pressure to not ever get angry, or else be perceived as some trivial chick who's complaining about something dumb and harshing everyone's mellow. (And it's even worse if you're a woman of color showing anger.) But it's socially acceptable for men to unleash anger—even violent anger.

To me, the central and most problematic aspect of the "Cool Girl" trope is the idea that this type of woman is always easy going and never angers. This part of the performance can do serious damage to your self-esteem - it makes you diminish the importance of your own emotions and instincts. There were a few…