Really glad to hear this. You've been a lot of help to me lately and I'm so happy things are improving for you. You deserve it.

Yeah I probably did want it both ways. She either thought it would lead to dating or that it wouldn't but wanted to put that discussion off, but I could see us using each other (me using her more than visa versa) so I wanted to stop it. You bring up good points as to why it would make sense for us to be a couple, but…

I had only seen the movie. I definitely don't want to be that guy.

That sounds intense. Had you had any non-in-person communication with her in that time period in which you hadn't seen her? Do you have anything to say to her at this point? Do you ever WANT to talk to her at some point in the future?

After finding myself in agreement with everyone who posted last time, I told RomCon that we had to stop hooking up. I of course did it in the stupidest way possible. We walked her dogs for an hour over the weekend (something we’d occasionally do before hooking up) and discussed usual stuff before I started venting…

Thank you for caring and for your encouragement. You must have touched some nerve because last night I dreamed I got wasted and woke up with a bunch of tattoos, one of which was Yoga Fire. Not a picture of Dhalsim spitting it out, but simply the words "Yoga Fire." Also, right before bed I just watched a tv show where…

I think talking about relationship issues is better than not getting an outside perspective and that bottling things up is unhealthy. But I go a bit overboard in the other direction. And it's been long enough and I've talked about it enough that I think you're right that I don't need to talk about her anymore, barring…

I can see that. I'm not sure I totally agree, but I do think sharing so much with RomCon isn't always the best idea. I tend to think oversharing is better than undersharing as long as I do it with only a few select people (and uh, I guess the entire internet here), but I could be out of whack. Writing might be a good…

Shit I knew my username sounded familiar. Sorry to step on your toes.!

Thanks. That's a tough thing to figure out, because we very well might not end up friends. Given the insular nature of the music scene, I'm positive I'll eventually run into her at some point though. So I'd at least like to be on friendly terms, even if we don't become friends. Personally, becoming friendly with exes…

I definitely have that problem of relying too much on others for emotional support and validation, and I agree that that's a big reason the "not in the same league" thing hurt so much. I don't know exactly how to fix it, so I'd like to say I'm working on it, but I'm not sure if that just means I know I have a problem.

This last question is a good one. It might be both. I do feel like I'm playing with fire though and might need to back out til my mind settles down anyway. I just get a vibe where she wants to be sort of coupley at times, which makes me think there might be feelings underneath. Maybe I should sack up and talk to her…

Shit, you're right. It totally is a cop out. Partially because I thought "let's not ruin the friendship" spares some feelings, but more importantly, because it lets me avoid a tough conversation. I do need to just tell her that I don't feel that way about her and that's it's not going to change. I don't know when or…

Last week I posted a sob story about missing my ex who could be really bad to me. You guys gave incredible advice and put things into perspective. (read it all here if you want: http://www.avclub.com/artic… ) One of you said to not be shy with updates, so you have him/her to blame for this long, self-indulgent post.

I appreciate this a lot and agree. She did seem to take frustrations out on other people occasionally. The thing about the songwriting superiority seemed more like she was insulted that her songs would be in the same league as mine. That whole thing arose when I said something like "Not to put us on this level, but…

The problem is when you're dating Kanye.

It still blows my mind that this might be the case considering her music is rightly celebrated by her peers, she gets good shows, lots of press, and is one of the most played artists on our local community radio station. She has no one to be jealous of or any reason to be insecure about her music. I guess these things…

Thanks. I agree that I need to get less sensitive about my music and just in general but am not sure how to go about it. I should clarify that it's not just that she thought she's a better songwriter, which I can handle, but that she considers herself on a much higher plane. She even said she likes most of my music.…

Do you guys have any tips for moving on? I have problems not thinking about her. I'm not sure if I'm ready to date but maybe I should get out there? Online dating depresses me, but I'm not sure how to meet other people.

Our past fights seemed constructive, but it seems like we kept making the same mistakes. It's hard because I know we both love (or loved) each other, but yeah, it didn't seem to be working. All my friends said the arrogance and the comment about our relative artistic merits was a dealbreaker and it might be. Thank you.