Did you not read my fucking comment before you jumped in to criticize me? This is my area of study, jackass, and of all the science I’ve studied I’m especially an expert on this body I’ve been walking around in for decades.
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I had the same reaction you did but decided to not engage. Any man who tries to dictate what a woman does with her body instantly loses in my book. His "women should be held accountable" comment and "abortion only for emergency" instantly revealed his bias and, therefore, discredits his opinion. I do the same BC as…
You’re getting a lot of shit for this, but you are right. At the very least the editors should have added a little note that it works just 73% of the time, with a link to PP: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/birth-control-…
If I had to hazard a guess, we hear a lot more people saying “It works for me!” than people saying it doesn’t because nobody really wants to admit their kid was a mistake. (No offense intended, coming from someone who herself is a long-acknowledged mistake!)
No, I never said that. I said that I would never promote it as a primary source of prevention. Maybe tertiary if there were literally no other options. Want to know what else works? Outercourse, other forms of sexual behaviors like oral sex, or focusing drastically more on helping people develop the communication…
because fucking condoms! Condoms are far more effective and help protect against STIs. And the issue with the pull-out method is that you have to really be diligent about it. It involves trust between partners and a lot of what I have seen is that in communities that involve a lot of stigma around sex focus…
My mom got very drunk one night while we were playing Cards Against Humanity, and she got the pull-out method card. She ended up winning that round, and she gestured to my twin brother and I as she announced to my younger cousins that we are proof that the pull-out method does not work. Which was not news to us. But…
While what her jackass boss did is not a HIPPA violation, in some states (like mine CA) it is a major legal violation and there are massive reprocussions, up to and including termination. Now I am only familiar with CA law which are some of the strictest in the country, I’m not sure what NY labor laws and privacy laws…
My husband and I used it for the first few years we were married, and it worked well. Then, I decided to get an IUD, just to make sure things were OK. After having it removed, and TTC for 5 years, we discovered why it worked so well: DH’s sperm count was on the very low end of normal, with low motility, and I have…
The most effective? Like, above even condoms? Because I’m pretty sure that’s both wrong, and downright criminally negligent to tell to someone who is sexually active yet inexperienced enough to need your expertise.
I call it the manual finish. “Pull out” seems more like “oh shit!” *Pulls out cumming*. Manual finish is “ok I’m gonna cum” *pulls out, target, execute*
I do think a lot of it depends on body awareness— if the guy is super vigilant (cue that “Pull-Out King episode of Portlandia) and you’re very aware of your cycle it can work for a while. But those are pretty big “ifs” and if both of y’all are fertile myrtles I can confirm from personal experience that it is not a…
I honestly didn’t know it was technically a form of contraception until my doctor asked if I was using any form of birth control and I said no. She responded with “nothing? not even the pull-out method?” I was like “oh! I didn’t know that was a form of bc.” She said, of course it is. Without judgement.
THIS. When I was younger, still living at home with my conservative parents, I took a political science class at the local college. We had weekly debates, and for the reproductive rights debate, I took the anti-abortion side, because that’s what I believed. The professor asked if I thought abortion was murder and…
and it also likely depends on the man. Some men tend to have a lot more pre-ejaculate than others.
I get that it works for some people, but as someone who did their thesis on sexual health education, I would never recommend the pull-out method as a primary source of prevention.
right?! It’s not that it “works,” you were just lucky. I can promise you that I am most likely super fucking fertile thanks to my mom’s genetics and I would get pregnant in a second using the pull-out method
Compared to doing nothing at all sure
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.