I'll take both.

I don't know how I feel like Larry Wilmore. I mean, he's good and all, but I wish they had picked someone like Samantha Bee or Jessica Williams. I LOVE Jessica Williams.

Well, go donate to your local Planned Parenthood.

The one about the parent hating their son could have been written by my father. He was so hell-bent on not having a girl, he made my mother have an abortion. Twice. When she found out she was having me, she hid my gender until the day I was born hoping he'd come around. He didn't.

I knew it! Reproduction is a trap encouraged only by the most primitive parts of the brain.

he was sexually assaulted, and defended himself. That does not make him homophobic. Also why do you assume the guy who assaulted him in the toilet is gay? From the excerpt you posted, and from the link to article which I read, I didn't see that mentioned anywhere.

Tracie, please please please please please stop writing. You're contributing to making the world a worse place. For dog's sake, just stop.

I think his reaction was totally reasonable and honestly so humanizing for awareness of male sexual assault. No, men do not always want sex. Yes, men can get rattled by unwanted sexual advances. Grabbing someone through a bathroom stall is wildly inappropriate. And one thing the LGBT community does deal with is very…

On top of the "vague" bullshit - exactly how many ways can this memory be interpreted? I guess they could have been EMTs.

I've started to write about six different comments. I'm completely stunned by this post. The person who's conflating "gay" with "sexual abuser" here is you. I'm confident that millions of gay men have lived their entire lives without grabbing an unwilling stranger by the leg in a public restroom. If you think this…

As others have pointed out, the man was not just gay, he was a predator. I don't really see what a label of sexuality has to do with it. As for those saying that Herman's actions were assault and NOT self defense, I'd point out that he was a victim of attempted sexual assault. Victims will react in a variety of ways…

I'm not sure when we shifted from blaming perpetrators to blaming victims around here, but the tone taken in this article is pretty vile. First: why are you conflating homophobic media coverage (of which Jezebel/Gawker media have been a part) with Jeff Herman, who — as far as I can tell — has not been writing any of…

I expected more from Jezebel.

I'd say that's not even 'potentially' coercing sexual activity. Reaching under a stall door to touch someone else in a bathroom IS sexual assault. No two ways about it.

If this story was about a woman who beat the shit out of a guy who grabbed her leg in the toilet while jerking off, there would be nothing but a chorus of "YOU GO GIRL!!" and other similar platitudes. But because it is a dude, the author finds the whole thing unsettling and probably homophobic.

Touching someone else's leg without consent, under the partition of a bathroom stall, while masturbating? Like, if that's not sexual assault, what the fuck IS?

One of those is an incredibly vague incident from his childhood which—unlike the allegations against Singer, et al—could be interpreted in a number of ways.

Thank you. This is literally the stupidest use of the word "homophobic" that I have ever seen, and frankly, I think it speaks more about the author than the subject of this article.

Really? Being groped by a masturbating stranger is _fucking sexual assault_. I fail to see how the victim's reaction was "disproportionate."

I don't care what kind of person touched me against my will while I was trying to use the bathroom - I'm kicking that person's ass just like this guy did. It's not about gay or straight or whatever else. It's about someone touching you and making you feel unsafe.