meanwhile in real life women at work often use looks to advance without accomplishment and not coincidentally send very mixed signals to their male compatriots.

It's not really about the individual—this seems to be why dudes go crazy when people start talking about rape culture. Racism and sexism are systemic, imbricated within structures in such a way that individual participation is both (often) unintended but also impossible to avoid. So no one's calling you a sexist or…

3. Compliments are not currency.

Lindy, can you write a book please? Between this article, your one about man-hating, and your other one about rape jokes, you've got a solid premise for a book on How Not to Be a Douche, which the world really really needs.

Hey, Lindy, just wanted to let you know that your reasoned discourse is looking extremely attractive today. Your professional, yet entirely accessible writing ability is gorgeous. Also, I find your ability to empathize even with people who disagree with you to be quite fetching.

Ok, serious talk without all the…

You're a national fucking treasure, Lindy. You're right, it's not hard. Wipe the bewilderment off your collective face, boys. It's not hard. It's not confusing. Stop being so obtuse.