are you trying to kill us

That about sums it up.

Right? I feel like I could have lived the rest of my life just not knowing that information at all. :-/

Well, holy fuck.

Correction: I don’t “need” to do anything that you tell me to do.

OK, it’s time for humanity to go and allow another species their time in the sun.

One of the comedy Instagram accounts I follow, which is normally very funny, posted a video yesterday of a guy asking a girl out, she and her friends laughing at him, and then him beating the shit out of the girl and screaming that he’s going to fucking kill her. Not real, of course, but absolutely vile stuff. And…

The number of Johnny Depp apologists out there is so depressing. I know he’s a lot of women’s Manic Pixie Dream Man Forever, but Jesus. I don’t care if it was alcohol/drug-related and he’s a real nice guy when sober, I don’t care if she “provoked” him, I don’t care if Amber Heard is or isn’t a gold digger, domestic…

“She’s done photoshoots before, so this guy is totally fine to run up on her and start taking photos with her!” is the exact same logic behind assholes claiming “You can’t rape sluts, because they knew what they were getting into when they lost their virginity.”

Rapey means rape-like. This is about the control of a strangers body without her own consent—that's pretty similar.

I don’t know. His comments about “paid for you” and his assertion of power over her, doing something with her personhood without her consent sounds very much like the power crime that rape is. While I agree that an overuse of this word is a bad thing, in this case, I think we’re looking at something in that same…

I think what is disturbing is you seemed to be saying that voluntary expressions of female sexuality mean the loss of the right of consent. She did sexy photos therefore never has any right to say no. That’s kind of what you’re implying there.

I might have been willing to accept your point of you if you hadn’t belittled me with the ultra-smarmy way of telling me what words I get or not “get to” use. “Rape” shows up in this discussion not because the incident is a literal rape, but because many parallels can be made about trespassing against a woman’s…

*rape victim here* Yes we “get” to do that. We see and experience patterns of disrespect and non consent. Rape comes from somewhere. Fuck off.

I addressed that directly and literally said I’m not undermining that. It’s a spectrum of violence is what I said. When men don’t take “no” and “stop” seriously in other cases where a woman feels violated, it’s part of the same culture of disrespectful non-consent. There’s really nothing you can say that will sway my…

Read your comment again and notice how easily it could be about rape rather than a photo.

I’m pretty sure that the subways run up the sides of the park but not directly under it.