The real world doesn't work what way? That I make decisions based on information and anecdotes I hear and read about people, many of which are corroborated by other people and other evidence? What other evidence could you want besides victims accounts, witnesses accounts, and statistics (and mumbo-jumbo)? If you say…

The justice system isn't really set up for crimes like sexual assault, molestation, incest where there is often no physical evidence and we depend on a victim's word. That's what I meant by imperfect. I'm not saying we should get of IUPG for the justice system - I'm saying you need a different code for your personal…

I really suggest reading the whole article - it's good. It has nothing to do with him defending himself, so I'm not sure where you're getting that. It has to do with how the public, as spectators, evaluate his words versus Dylan's words. Please note it's about the public as spectators - we can't hang him. It's not…

Ah bless you and your man!

Thanks for ALL your insights! "I was scared when I was starting to move on - like if I gave up first then he'd really never come back around," really resonated with me, but thankfully I'm past that part. I thought it WOULD NEVER END. I probably gave up on some good people due to these feelings, but they're over with…

I moved from Los Angeles (LA) to New Orleans, Louisiana (LA). My old username that I forgot the password to was in honor of MizJenkins, though #olddays

I have actually wondered about your name, in the past!

OO I love this - especially because of the realistic view on LDR and the fact that you didn't sacrifice everything in your life for him (sounds more mutual)! Congratulations to you!

Seriously? Damn - that's cold. When I feel like someone is being dumb about a relationship, I just quiet on up. Still, my IRL friends have definitely asked me to stfu about my ex, which hurts but at the same time, it made me reflect and think, yeah this talking on him really isn't going anywhere I'd be sick of me too…

What? Who is shaming you? For what are you being shamed?

Congrats! *swoon

No I'm not! Guess it's pretty common :)

For you: My 11th grade history teacher messaged me on OKC. He taught me 10 years ago and I don't use my real name so I'm not surprised he didn't recognize me. His message was really nice - about how he's a fun feminist and claims it proudly - but the fact that I myself taught 10th grade...don't think I can! Now maybe…

Can you clarify your first sentence? Do you mean you're more likely to believe someone who says they were molested vs. someone who says they were raped? I'm just confused and don't want to jump to conclusions about the point you're trying to make.

You seem to be saying that anyone who upholds the principle of "innocent until proven guilty" in cases of suspected rape is complicit in rape culture.

Word, I thought we were talking about accusations too so I don't know where that came from - I didn't say charge. When you said, "if I were accused of something like this", I thought you meant something like the charge we were all talking about, which is a child saying her dad sexually assaulted her. Since we were…

I think we just interpret your first statement differently. To me, "I don't know if he did it" means, "I know she said he did it, I know all the creepy pervo facts about him, but I'm still not inclined to make a decision because it seems as likely that he didn't do it (in spite of what I know about him, what I know…

I don't see a huge difference in (1) impact on a victim and (2) influence of rape culture on your decision if you choose to blame a victim or tell a victim that you don't believe her account of a rape. That's me personally - obviously you disagree so I'm not trying to compel you, just explain. What I'm saying is, if I…

But it does, right? I mean, you know they're not both telling the truth. One IS lying. You know this is true: "His presumption of innocence can only be built on the presumption that her words have no credibility."

This article is saying that you know they're not both telling the truth and you know enough of the facts, allegations, and general behavior of sexual predators to make a decision for yourself on who is lying. If you believe Dylan is lying, that means you believe a lot of other things that uphold rape culture: women…