You’re right that I have no information about your friend beyond what you’ve provided here. But as her friend you are in a position to ask her. As you said, she may not be able to confront him for her own safety. But it is also possible that she isn’t confronting him because “he’s a really sweet guy except for the…

The safety pin thing suggests it’s on the victimized person to find a safety pin person and hope they’re for real. It shouldn’t be on them in the first place.

The fact that we want to do something good does not ensure that we actually are doing something good.

The issue is that your friend apparently accepts her husband’s racism. She herself may be a progressive person but to paraphrase the saying, the only thing necessary for racism to flourish is for progressive people to not confront the racists in their own lives.

I don’t think “overt shade” is a thing...

Having actually read Alex Pareene’s 4 bloody paragraphs, fuck Alex Pareene.

You may want to try the Pottermore quiz again. They changed something (not sure what) so I had to retake it and got sorted into a different house.

Oh god the maiden name thing. My mom kept her name and was getting shit for it IN THE HOSPITAL while she was IN LABOR with me! Needless to say she went to a different hospital when she had my younger brother.

Thank you for being a reasonable person who isn’t personally bothered by the “little girl” comment but understands why others are. They could really use you in this thread (not that you should go there; it’s pretty needlessly heated)...

Basically everything you find annoying about supermarkets is likely intentional. Those pillars inexplicably in the middle of aisles? Intended to cause congestion so people spend more time looking at (and hopefully buying) items. Putting common stuff (like eggs and milk) at the back of the store? Intended to force you…

That’s why that policy doesn’t make sense. If the clerks always comment on your purchases, at some point you realize they’re being forced to pretend they care and every subsequent comment just reminds you of that. Where I shop, as far as I can tell, the clerks aren’t required to comment on every purchase so the…

Customer service in Germany is the best, at least when I was there a few years ago; a nice amount of business-like efficiency without feeling hostile. I never personally had a problem with service in France (in fact the best service I have ever gotten anywhere was at a restaurant in Paris) but I was there as a tourist…

Hey, Martin has a message for you.

To be honest I think the wild success of the show has all but killed the chances of getting the books done.

At this point the books and the show are alternate universe fanfiction of each other. The show made so many changes (largely understandable or even positive changes, in my opinion) early on that they’ve changed the whole trajectory of the story. Sure, the same “sides” will win the final battle and I imagine a few set…

Well if they are trolling they got Britain’s Royal Society of Chemistry and a Victorian cookbook writer in on it.

Your username and icon are prefect and now I will never not see it.

No, he’s just a small-town cop trying to hold it together after the Rapture.

that is the fucking sorriest sandwich ever

Hey now. Scott Walker is definitely a boring idiot but there are legitimate reasons to have the same thing for lunch every day (granted, 26 years is way to long not to switch it up). It has certainly simplified my grocery list.