They shouldn’t try; they should ask. What is in conflict here are two different desires: one person wants to express physical affection and the other person does not want to receive it. We are discussing what should be the default position; whether we should assume that everyone is up for a hug unless you’re…

Hey Lin-Manuel Miranda is Puerto Rican and Jessica Williams is from California! There’s still hope for locally grown national treasures!

I think the idea is that Wilkerson got such a preposterously light sentence because he’s white. Had he been black he would almost certainly have gotten a harsher sentence unless he was also good at a major sport.

There is a huge difference between bowing and hugging someone. Bowing doesn’t physically involve the other person so it’s much more akin to simply saying “hello”. A hug involves physically interacting with another person. It’s not unreasonable to require permission for someone to touch you, especially if you don’t…

The thing is, I would have been perfectly fine hugging him if he had asked. I did appreciate that he didn’t make it weird afterwards.

I inadvertently punched my cousin’s now-husband in the chest when he went to hug me. People should definitely ask before just grabbing someone.

Hugging in a professional setting is weird but there are other contexts I’ve experienced where hugging is a common and accepted interaction. In those contexts I think the hugging is innocent (although I personally find hugging overly affectionate) and requesting a hug is a way to confirm someone’s consent before…

The first one in the article. The rugby hair-pulling one.

This literally had me stifling laughter in my office. 10/10 would read again

Whoa wait what? Is that an actual quote from Momoa?

...of her arm?

The article, as well as multiple comments, treat pH and alkalinity as different things. That is incorrect. Thorkild specifically calls alkalinity a stabilizer. That is also incorrect.

I tried not participating in the pledge when I was in middle school. I was fortunate that I didn’t get sent to the principle but the absolute disgust from my homeroom teacher was palpable.

“Patriotism” in the sense that it is used by many Americans is fucking scary.

Here’s a simplified spectrum of human skin tones:

I’ve never gotten a physical letter but I have gotten official emails. I would not be super comfortable negotiating salary over the phone.

I’m saying what I said: Niantic chose lighter skin tones and that choice is reflective of a larger problem in games. One game making better choices doesn’t solve the broader problem.

I understand Niantic was working with limited resources but they made the choice to allow different skin tones and they chose which tones would be available. The tones they chose are reflective of a larger trend in video games (and media altogether) to lean on lighter as the default. There is no legitimate reason for…

The issue isn’t (strictly speaking) about having an avatar that looks like you. The problem is that Pokemon Go is just the latest in a long line of games that assume the “default” person is white or at least on the lighter end.

I agree that you can only change minimal things about the avatars but the fact remains that Niantic chose what those avatars would look like and what about them you would be able to change. I understand only offering one character model but why default to white (when you first load the game your avatar defaults to…