Same, I have the worst flashbacks from reading this mom’s letter. Getting my first real job that paid enough money that I could tell my mom I would never depend on her for money ever again was the best thing that ever happened to me, and she was clearly upset by the loss of control. This mom reminds me of her.

This letter writer is giving me strong flavors of my mom. The martyrdom, using money/gifts as control. The question of “should a young adult text their mom back” isn’t really my takeaway here, it’s that a well - adjusted person would not have written this letter.

My mom calls me all the time at bad times but is also a huge worrier. She used to have me print out my schedule but wouldn’t consult it until I didn’t answer a call, but at least she would know not to freak out. The up side is that I’m really good at always remembering to silence my phone during quiet events.

The thing that really stuck out to me is that she doesn’t know what her daughter’s schedule is or when she is in class, which is really easy info to find out if you are interested in someone’s life. You might even think that an involved mom would want to know what classes her daughter was taking during her first…