Saying her tone is off is not exactly vilifying her. If I were her husband and we’d been able to work through this thing together (again, good for them), I would probably not love reading how my wife chose to start her comment off with “cheating saved my marriage,” later adding “stay married or stay mad” and…

I make no claims about what she does, or does not deserve. As I said, I’m glad she and her husband have found a way to move forward. Perhaps she consider her tone when speaking of her betrayal in the future, as it makes her sound like a jerk.

If you cheat on your partner for a year and subsequently get caught, you shouldn’t really expect the spouse you betrayed to make you feel secure in the relationship. That’s the point.

Just because you think the wife is kind of a jerk doesn’t mean anyone thinks she should be a punching bag. You really are a dense person.

I think the husband’s account is a burner too.

“How vindictive can people get if they think him staying to torture her with her mistake is a healthy thing? And they think they’re in the moral high ground here.”

It doesn’t take a particularly high horse to deduce that the original poster’s story casts her in an unflattering light. The tallest horse in this gawker stable is slamming people for using their brains to analyze situations and make conclusions.

Sorry, you’re wrong.

Nobody forced her to comment about how an affair and an ultimatum were good for her marriage. I am sorry you don't understand this.

“You’ll likely never fully appreciate the depth of his pain or the strength of his character to work on your marriage. He must really love you and your children.”

A deal breaker when your date even looks at a text, and zero guilt for multiple trysts with married women. Any woman would be lucky to have you.

I think we all get it just fine.

Really all I said was that it is kind of obnoxious to claim zero feelings of guilt or remorse about having sex with a bunch of married women, and that your agency in betrayal and infidelity is at odds with your claim that everyone deserves to be happy.

You are a contributor to mankind. A vehicle for unhappy wives to discover and unlock a joy caged by marital challenge.

I’m sure the husbands at home are all very happy, and appreciative of your contributions.

Cheating with a bunch of married women and never once feeling guilty about it?

This is it, right here.

1. Decides instead of talking it out like a mature adult, cheat.

You advised people to listen to her wisdom. She led by saying cheating “saved their relationship.”

She led her entire diatribe by claiming that cheating saved her relationship. There are many (almost any) places to get better relationship advice than this.