For those who are wondering, less-trog alternatives to “goofs on” would have been “insults”, “belittles”, or “demeans”. Using “goofs on” says to me that there’s still a small part of the writer that is saying, “oh, that silly woman, Cam didn’t do anything malicious.”

hey Drew, I’m down here in the grays but want to say, as a man, thank you so fucking much for writing this. i had my own small version on facebook, and while there is a performative aspect to pointing at past trangressions, it’s necessary. we got to talk about. among friends and colleagues and family, wherever we can.…

I (somewhat) know Joe Alwyn (worked on a movie together). He’s exceptionally sweet and very adorable. Don’t think they met through their agents as they’re repped at different places, but I’m perfectly okay with them dating as he was an unwaveringly lovely person to be around when we were working together.

I was thrilled: not a single anti-March comment was about how it was fake news or wasn’t real. They can disagree or shame us, they always have since the beginning, but the roar of progressive furor was such that it cannot be denied.

I can see you

I hate when people try to “rank” which types of rapes are worse or most traumatic. I am only speaking for me, but having unfortunately been the victim of both acquaintance rape and drag-off-the-street stranger rape, the acquaintance rape left far more lasting psychological and emotional scars. It’s the whole thing…

I’m almost out of words, it’s so desperately enraging. Just say you don’t see women as people, so violations of their bodies aren’t really crimes. Just fucking say it, dick.

And the stranger rape is troubling precisely because that woman belonged to someone else. Maybe it was her boyfriend, or husband, or father. But the stranger took the property of someone else.

No, he doesn’t deserve poor treatment. But honestly, was he treated badly? This seems mild to me, probably innocent in intention (“that blonde girl” or “that man in the hat”). Certainly not deserving of the fuss he’s making.

The stereotype that white people always carry ranch dressing around with them is not cool anymore. When you say ‘He’s already got his, that white boy over there’” don’t just fucking assume I’m carrying my own ranch dressing around with me you hurtful monster. I need it for my tenders and when you assume that I already…

I wish it was a surprise that all the female staff are upfront about voting for Hillary while a lot of the (mostly white) male staff either aren’t voting for either candidate because they’re not in a contested state or have to “hold their nose” to vote for her.

I would urge the Deadspin staff (and anyone else, really) that feel they are in “safe” states to vote for Hillary anyway. There is a difference between barely fending off fascism, and repudiating it forcefully, and the more bigly Trump’s loss, the more forcefully we repudiate fascism.

Drew’s fine; Drew can stay.

“Voting is fine, but it’s not enough about me. How can I make it less about other people and more about my perception of myself?”

Holy shit. First time I’ve read it. It, uh, hit really really close to home for me. As I’m sure it does for a lot of women who were 19 once.

Yep, that’s why no man ever has been raped, no drugs have ever been used to limit people’s ability to fight back, and rape is solely a thing that occurs in a dark alley when a tiny defenseless woman is attacked by a big strong man!

It's explained in Juliet Litmans Bachelor Party podcast. Basically when they hooked up in the fantasy suite, he asked her if she wanted to fuck or make love. She wanted to make love, he basically was asking why she would say that if she wanted someone else. I don't think he was shaming her so much as completely…

Um, maybe because fathers are still publishing these masturbatory, self-congratulatory essays in earnest?

right? like, curse this contract that obligates me to read every single one!!!!