She sounds very immature. Not the friend you can count on to have your back as much as the friend you can count on to need to be convinced that going on a beer run with the guys she just met when she’s half a dozen jello shots in is not a good idea.

Yep. And there were trolls I dismissed who were happy to blame me for my situation and tell me I needed to leave my job, find another and keep demanding more money and benefits. If I don’t take that shit from my extended family (a clueless aunt who married well and maybe worked ten years in her LIFE) what makes them…

Is there any rhyme or reason as to who gets ungreyed?

Max Read admitted on Twitter awhile back that yes, Gawker hired people to troll the commenters.

I need to have a comment thread dedicated to just processing Cat Marnell because it still just boggles my mind.

Yup.

Yes, there are - and they offer very similar compensation and benefits currently. I’ve had and given up three different “work from home” writing and editing jobs because they treated their contractors horrifically and offered NO benefits.

There are theories/rumours that TomatoFace is a Gawker employee.

Thanks for assuming you know my circumstances. You do not. I am a highly skilled professional who MUST work an office job (see also where I explained my former industry is in the toilet). I am the ONLY employee. I now choose to live near an elderly parent who needs my care. If I were willing to leave, I could go back…

Whenever I forget to hit “show pending” I feel disappointed with the comments and often realize my mistake and go back. It’s weird, the current system. I would think that as women we have had our voices shut out enough already. It beats the animal torture and rape gifs, but I wish that Jezebel were more proactive at…

Thank you. It wasn’t easy. I had to work outdoors in a fracking theme park and on a CS phone line first!

Yup. I’m regularly “liked” in the triple digits for comments on XO, but I can’t get out of the greys here to save my life. It blows, but at least the commenters over there tend to be head and shoulders above the authors/editors in terms of quality and content!

I fucking HATE it there, but I spend more time on xo than I should, because I can actually participate in the commenting community, something that Jez won’t allow me to do, despite years of contributing.

Wow and congratulations on getting that job.

THIS.

Thank you. While I do think it’s important to discuss misogyny and inequality in the entertainment industry, Jennifer Lawrence and her experience is absolutely no comparison to every female in my actual life. I’m so glad this is being discussed. I have worked in recruiting and HR in the past. Women fighting for extra…

“Then Cat Marnell happened,” no truer words have ever been typed. IHTM: Cat Marnell

I should be the right age for XOJane. God knows, I was one of the girls who grew up wanting to be Jane Pratt, dutifully submitting her essays and ideas for Sassy’s Reader Produced Issue. Then Cat Marnell happened.

I comment on XO a lot because the commenting community is fantastic. In that forum you really get to know the other regular commenters and I personally have been very supported there and I have learned a lot. The actual articles however, have devolved so badly that every single day you login you read something that…

The Toast is closing in July and XOJane remains. This feels the wrong way round.