I remember the first time a girl explained that to me, after I freaked her out in a parking lot at night. Had my headphones on and my head down, tuning out the world on my way across campus.

I totally agree. We have a shit ton of work to do to educate boys to adopt this mindset. Fuck, if everyone in the world were conditioned to not be selfish assholes we’d be in a much better place.

I don’t disagree that she consented and this is a case of regret and not rape.

Thank you so much for writing this piece. It helped me feel less alone after several months of having my boundaries pushed and becoming really mindfucked by the whole situation. I, too, felt like I was alone and if I were a strong woman I could better stick to my boundaries. I’m wondering if you are aware of resources…