Ugh, so sorry for both of you. I know all relationships are different, but for her to acknowledge that they were friends first and should be able to return to that struck me as a very kind, selfless, and mature way to go about it. I have an aunt and uncle who divorced fairly well (after a hard year, sure) and even as…

Agreed. I usually really dislike her, but she’s hit on a sore subject for me. My parents divorced 25+ years ago and trying to navigate my wedding a few years ago where they would both have to be in the same room together for many hours was a nightmare (side note: They actually did behave quite well and even sat down…

Incredible. Did you ‘gram it? I hope so, otherwise the experience is pointless.

No need to go to cali. Check out the superbloom photo i took outback.

That mixing up of time tends to happen when people write about the cultural memory of something that occurred when they were toddlers.

Gah, you’re right, I’m fixing. I should have just sold highlighter palettes.

“...hence, I assume, why...”

Yeah, I’m coming to terms with the slow death of a college friendship. She was my bridesmaid, and we’ve visited each other’s cities (it’s been awhile), but the past few years, she basically just rarely returns my texts. I had a baby, and that should be good for at least the bare minimum of feigned interest, but she…

I’m afraid I completely understand this. I was dancing when, at about 11 or 12, I learned my grandfather was dying of brain cancer, because from the time I was 8 or 9 I’d been made aware of what he (and his brothers) had done to my mother starting from when she was like six. Just picture all the most horrific things…

I have been trying to come to terms with the fact that one of my friendships is effectively dead. I had become really good friends with a woman at my previous job and I thought it was a friendship that would last job changes. However, she became distant when I left and while I had always previously provided her…

When my best friend and I broke up, it hurt worse and was more emotionally confusing than any romantic relationship I’ve been in. Megan, this is a beautiful, truthful, heart-wrenching essay. A lot of us have been “there.” But, speaking for myself, (as a well-read, thoroughly adult woman,) I’ve never read anything that…

At the time, La Toya was met with skepticism, and she herself would refute her allegations eventually, explaining that she’d been forced to make them by her abusive, controlling husband and manager Jack Gordon.

Great article—I’ve not yet read these books, but I really appreciate a conversation about the complexities of female friendships. Breaking up with my college best friend (15 years ago!!!) remains one of my deepest shames and most painful memories. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do—no breakup of a…

This resonated. I had a friend who just expected too much from me. A single woman, a former colleague, she moved into town and then it was on. She invaded my home life with over the top gifting, unwanted hospital visits, unrequested personal advice and finally, what I can only describe as a weird sort of moral…

This hit close to home for me. In the past two years I’ve lost 3 close friends—two of which I knew since college. All severed ties without so much as telling me why. I’ve spoken to other friends who knew them and our friendship, and for the most part the general consensus is they were immature to do that and it wasn’t…

Nothing deep to say here, but I enjoyed reading this piece. It resonated in a way that was both pleasant and sad. I also lost a friendship over the past few years that had been particularly deep and powerful for me, and in some respects there’s still a bit of grief there.

I used to struggle with this too. I grew up with parents who were physically and mentally abusive and it had such a catastrophic impact on me. I developed PTSD and addiction issues. Even after I got sober, I still held on to my anger at them. I’m only now, nearly 7 years sober, in a place where I want to forgive them.…

I think a billion could work. You only really need to pay for child care for the first year, which could consist of large screen TVs and Roomba diaper changer feeding robots. After that, from 1-3, put the kid in a hamster ball hooked to generators and let them produce power and get paid for it. From 3 until…

Hi Jezzies, a few of you will remember that I was homeless and then finally got rehoused by the council into a flat last year. The block the flat is in is awful and full of drug dealers and that I am the only female in the block. I posted last year that my doctor had written to the council to say that I needed to be…

I’m equally offended by the description of their wedding plans: they’re asking their guests to attend a ceremony in Williamsburg, a dinner in Soho, and then a post-dinner reception at 78th & Park. THIS IS TOO MUCH MOVING AROUND.