I do hope it makes you feel a little bit better but you're totally right, something being "normal" is pretty meaningless (something can be bad and the norm at the same time!) But really I just meant harmless, in that the kind of mild power imbalance you describe is in many cases desirable and can 100% be part of a…

I've always been confused about non-swallowers….does she spit it out in a tissue or something? I'm a woman and it's always just seemed so much easier to just swallow but I'm also very lazy.

Sex isn't usually egalitarian, basically. Almost all fetishes and sexual interests beyond the just physical sensations are rooted in power imbalance play. I think it's sad that well-meaning men are felt to feel guilty about something so basic and harmless. I'm a woman and I like doggy style/being dominated because it…

I've never seen her as a bad actor, she is a popular girl who is gorgeous and rich and so I definitely think her model-esque aloofness and posing fits in with the character (whether or not it was a choice she consciously made.) I think she's a thoughtful, engaged young person (I follow her on twitter) and I thinks…

I thought the way you said they'd not hire a 14 year old for her looks made it sound like you were suggesting there was something creepy about saying a 14 year old has model good looks. Obviously, not what you meant, but it did come off that way.

Of course, in a professional context, it is unfair/sexist/ridiculous to refuse to meet one-on-one with a female colleague or employee! I have almost exclusively worked in female dominated fields and had female bosses so I haven't personally even contemplated it until the Pence and Mommy story but I just figured it's a…

I've had some pretty great drunk sex! And I like extra rough when I'm drunk, particularly if we are both equally, pleasantly drunk. The only problem I have is when I'm relatively sober and he's very drunk, then I'm aware of the sloppiness and it takes the fun out of the roughness. I mean, if you're with someone you…

While, of course, I think a hard and fast rule like Pence's is absurd BUT my perspective on what's appropriate for married people to do has changed since I've been married, despite considering myself very sex positive and not very jealous or old fashioned. For example, 10ish years ago I was working with a friend's…

That's the only time I've had one break, too! The guy was this in-between size where he was little too big for a regular condom but a Magnum was a little too big, so we just couldn't get right!

Aha that seems less labor intensive (but still the idea of having a dedicated milk bag pitcher is funny to me but in reality it's no less strange than a dedicated iced tea pitcher which is definitely the norm where I live.)

One Beat didn't age great for me, despite being the first album that came out after I became a super fan and that I got to see them tour for (I got into them when All Hands on the Bad One came out but that tour didn't make it to my state) so I was WILD for it at the time but I just don't come back to it as much as Dig…

While it's not exactly the same thing, I think an argument could be made that Dig Me Out brought them to the most commercially viable version of their sound at the time- Hot Rock gets more varied in style, All Hands on the Bad One gets the real gloss of trying to be mainstream, and so forth after that. I disagree with…

His delivery of "good soup" is my favorite thing maybe of the entire series!

I had always heard of this mythic Canadian bag milk but pictured that it had a spigot, like the udder of boxed wine. But the fact that you have to buy the bag and then pour it into a pitcher…that really lost me because that seems like way too much work.

Agreed, that even these kind overly feel good kind of Holocaust stories serve an overall good purpose of engaging people in thinking and learning about it who otherwise would not. For example, this book is the chosen title at the school where I work as the sort of "book of the year", where it's used as a jumping off…

I truly would not have believed people who said "oh once a week will be fine once you've been with someone for a while" when I was a super randy gal, trying to hook up with different people every day of the week. But I've been married for 5 years and more than once a week is like "crushing it!" Once a week is,…

OOh I love Ask a Manager but haven't read in a few days (goes off to catch up.)

I've never made a carbonara (and have only really had not-great restaurant versions which I still enjoy) but I read through all the comments to see if anyone else saw the picture of the chef and had flashbacks to her season of Top Chef and what a meanie she was! But no one else chimed in so I'm going to assume that…

Yeah, I didn't think that seemed "nuclear' at all, just doing common sense research to possibly dissuade him from doing something dumb. Also, I'm not usually as annoyed my Dan's suggestion to find a sex worker as some people in these comments but this was one that made me go "hmmm." The dad doesn't just want to get…

I don't know if it constitutes "kinkier" but my first thought was "dang, that's elaborate for pre-work sex!" Like something about involving toys like that seems unusually labor intensive for weekday morning sex. So maybe she's saying "kinkier" but really meaning "unusual for morning sex"?