I agree 100%. It's not that I don't think there is a discussion to be had about RuPaul's reliance on"ghetto" stereotypes for comedy (because this isn't the first time) but the way the reviewer made it the focus of the review seemed less like a discussion and more like scolding.

I have, in no way, been "nasty" and have done my best to just have a robust debate as I have had many times with everyone else on this comment section. You come off really rude and condescending in writing but I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that it's just in writing and you are a nice, well-meaning person.…

You aren't the first person I've heard say that the adjustment to a new genitalia wasn't as drastic as they expected. I think that's really cool and it's interesting how different people tick, which is why I love these comment boards!

Maybe sensitive is not the right word but you are definitely projecting in the way you accused me of. I wasn't projecting, I was relating to the LW, you are projecting your feelings about stamina, which just like size, seems to be something you (and many men) are more hung up on than I am or any woman I've ever…

You are very sensitive! I just basically am this woman, I don't like oral and I don't like being told to "just realize" something that wouldn't be helpful to me or the LW. I think both men and woman should use their words; if she says "I don't like oral, please stop that" and he can't explain "I need to do it so I…

"They all work pretty much the same" is just not my experience. The act of sucking dick is much different than eating pussy, for me, in that I enjoy one much more than the other (dick is the preferable one to me.) I am attracted to transmen but don't think practically I could be with anyone long term, monogamously if…

She asked for help in getting guys to stop eating her pussy not for some guy like you to mansplain to her why she should keep getting her pussy eaten.

The kind of club really matters. I'm a woman and so my perspective is probably a little different but there is your average strip club where the stage isn't the focus, but rather girls going around trying to get private dances. I get it, that's how you make your money but it's kind of dull and I know I get…

Exactly. Don't know why they took it so personally as all she did was admit she was threatened by her partner being with someone who could give him something she could not (dick, in this case.) It wasn't really a judgement on bi men but rather her sharing her own hangup, in response to someone who said "are there…

I hate it about it about myself, it feels very backwards, but I'm not into bi guys. I tried dating one (well, I tried dating a bi guy/bi girl couple once, so the whole experience was well outside my comfort zone) and I just didn't get turned on hearing him talk about sucking dick. I can get turned on about a gay guy…

I'd think it's just one of those kneejerk well-meaning but still unnecessary things a parent says because they are taken aback. How many good things would a woman her age have ever heard about bi men? So she says the first thing that comes to mind. It's like when parents of gay children would say "I just want you to…

There is a power imbalance if the older person is much more experienced both sexually and romantically and/or has a career and more money. So it doesn't necessarily mean a power imbalance but someone possibly still in college/just out of college is usually in a much different place than a 27 year old.

It does seem like maybe some kind of sex-positive counseling could be one step to try before divorce because it doesn't so much sound like it's clear if they are incompatible but rather she doesn't know enough about sex to know what she wants or likes.

Definitely a case of using your words. Does she come from PIV? From incorporating a vibrator into sex? She is coming, right? If you aren't sure, ask her how she usually does. If she says from oral then you know you gotta get back down there. As Dan has pointed out (and as I have experienced as a woman) women can have…

Letter #2 doesn't need to realize your whole theory because, as she clearly stated, she does not enjoy oral. It does not increase her pleasure. She seems to manage coming from PIV just fine, without your stamina increasing magic cure of letting the man eat her out against her will. She needs to find guys who don't…

Exactly what I was about to say! People or media can be insensitive without being full-on racist and I would argue that in these cases, problematic is a much more useful word than racist (since the accusation of pure racism tends to shut the conversation down because of the defensiveness you describe.)

YES hacky is the word I was looking for! At my show it was nail salon jokes about Asian people and I was there with an Asian person! She also has a great sense of humor and isn't easily offended but because the joke was so obvious and not clever that it made me uncomfortable on her behalf (she never mentioned it…

I do wonder if, while plenty of us like books, we aren't clicking on book reviews as much. Which makes sense, as literature isn't exactly pop culture, and this is a pop culture site above all else. AND reading a book is a much longer time commitment than listening to an album or watching a TV show or movie so that is…

While I thought the reviewer laid it on awful thick, "Tone deaf" is a good way of describing it because people are very aware and sensitive to how historically mistreated groups are portrayed (which I think is good) but as you mentioned, Ru cares not for being appropriate in tone because she seems to take some…

I don't agree that "problematic" never has a place in discussions about appropriation and such things that actually do happen in pop culture (this episode just wasn't an example of it.) BUT I was also delighted by Bob's reuse of her curtain clutch!