Why can't it be that way? Because that way isn't right for everyone. If that's the way you did it and you were happy, yay for you!

I mean, I am having a big (I guess? big by non-wedding standards, but not big by actual wedding standards) wedding - because I love parties. I love throwing them, I love attending them. I have really enjoyed all of my friends' weddings. They have allowed me to fly out (when I can afford it) to have a day - or…

What would be fantastic is if someone would make a page of all the major comment threads discussing this, and we could use it to reply to anyone who brings it up in future. The OP has responded, and I think s/he legitimately had no idea that this comes up every single time; s/he might have actually thought s/he was…

As long as those people are not demanding you pay for your fantasy wedding and they enjoy it, why not?

Oh I totally agree with that! I think these people are The Worst.

There really isn't a social system around that though, is there? Like, I'll throw a Halloween party, but it will be at my house and it won't be a nice dinner, because that would be pretty weird. Also, my friends and family wouldn't make an extra effort to come - like, the ones in my city might, but my best friend…

Or, and this is crazy I know, the cheese girl HEARD the customer wrong or MISUNDERSTOOD the question. There is nothing worse than pretentious, marginally informed specialty store clerks. I remember my search for no added sulfite wine at a wine merchant in a reasonably sized city. This was pre-smartphone and I had to…

Look, that chant ain't great, but your initial comment, which I was responding to, attacked a female rugby player who expanded on her own experience. As a feminist, female-identified rugby player who has never felt that there was a misogynistic environment created by any of the rugby clubs I've been a part of, I felt…

You are attacking her while lumping an entire sport and culture into one incidence without any prior experience or knowledge of the "the honor of your precious fucking rugby"-Tara Babcock .

Even though it isn't really cheese, we do call the vegan alternative "vegan CHEESE." If this is what she was looking for, there is really no reason that she wouldn't refer to it as cheese. There is also gluten free beer that is legitimately gluten free but it costs like $16 a glass. It's ok. I'm not gluten free, but I…

Everyone I know who did the destination thing was specifically because they wanted a small wedding but didn't want to insult large families by not inviting them.

This comment comes up on every single article on this site. Every single time, people come out of the woodwork to patiently explain that you can want to throw a big fun party for your friends without being self-absorbed. Like, yes, that money would totally be better spent donated to charities, but so would the money…

Casein free cheese is actually a thing. It's not real cheese, but it's real. Jesus.

The people I get irritated by are the ones who act like because they spent a small amount of money on their wedding that means that thy somehow morally superior to those people who spent a lot. These are not poor people talking about their low-income weddings. These are folks who say that they didn't 'need' all that…

I don't get angry or annoyed when people talk about their inexpensive weddings, and I've never engaged in one of those threads on here or elsewhere. But I do find myself getting a little defensive when there's so much judgement around spending a bit more for a wedding, assuming we're spoiled, idiotic, going into debt…

I get what you're saying, I do. But I think Jessica's point was to create just one place where people could share this without getting the "well I picked wildflowers and put them in mason jars and had a $20 wedding in a local park" posts - because they do get obnoxious and make people feel bad for what they chose to…

I am white, and I like Kimmy, although not so much for the racial humor (or "humor," depending on one's perspective), more for the PTSD aspect and the screwiness of it and that it's NYC-based.* Ellie Kemper is a really great comedic actress and Tituss Burgess pretty much owns the show, he's that amazing.

The excerpt from her book was brilliant. She wasn't blaming WOC, in fact she was calling out the male gaze's fetishization of characteristics predominantly found in women of various ethnic groups, how the standard of beauty picks and pulls women into their base components, particularly WOC, and that embracing a "new"…

1. The casting directors on FotB were not white.

Netflix runs a show featuring not one heterosexual cis white male lead? Pick it apart, it had a few uncomfortable moments!