I can reply to myself, but not to the people who responded to me. WTF Disqus, that is not helpful.

I can reply to myself, but not to the people who responded to me. WTF Disqus, that is not helpful.

I know people who have a bolt-action heart, only one round in the chamber. They don't love multiple people romantically at a time. I do, and always have, related to loved ones and the loved ones of my loved ones with the desire to make those connections all work out. That feels normal to me. Thinking that I could keep…

I know people who have a bolt-action heart, only one round in the chamber. They don't love multiple people romantically at a time. I do, and always have, related to loved ones and the loved ones of my loved ones with the desire to make those connections all work out. That feels normal to me. Thinking that I could keep…

It is invalidating for someone to choose your identity for you. Just because they have no power over you does not mean that they are not trying to coerce you to fit into the slot they want to put you in. And that's disrespectful, and a bit arrogant.

It is invalidating for someone to choose your identity for you. Just because they have no power over you does not mean that they are not trying to coerce you to fit into the slot they want to put you in. And that's disrespectful, and a bit arrogant.

Dan, I think you're having some map/territory confusion with regard to poly being an identity/noun. Because the scale that you describe about some peoples preferred affectional styles being on a scale between monogamy and nonmonogamy sounds a lot like the Kinsey scale to me. And as a poly myself, I don't understand…

Dan, I think you're having some map/territory confusion with regard to poly being an identity/noun. Because the scale that you describe about some peoples preferred affectional styles being on a scale between monogamy and nonmonogamy sounds a lot like the Kinsey scale to me. And as a poly myself, I don't understand…