Right?! That's why I had to include that detail. It paints such a picture.

I had a dear friend who was dating a guy I hated. We usually didn't talk about him much, but when she got engaged of course I made an exception. She told me about his "proposal:"

I suspect this is true. However, the picture shown is hardly anyone's wildest fantasy. It's a woman in a red corset and a whip. It actually seems pretty tame.

I appreciate the distinction between "fantasies" and "stuff I want to do" though. I have fantasies I'd like to live out and those I would never ever ever want…

Yeah, any time I hear something like, "[This demographic] just can't get their shit straight!!!", I'm inclined to suspect there are some huge honking structural impediments making it really hard for them to do so. In this case, I suspect apathy plays a big role. Apathy is a rational response to polarization - the…

Actually, you're completely missing the joke. Take your own advice.

One year, I dressed as Rachel Maddow. My interests include philosophy, history and nature.

Um, no. From a glance it looked like you were using a selfie for an avatar photo. Now it looks like it's maybe a dude in an 80's hair metal band. Which, you know, yeah... still pretty sure you're white.

Yeah, that's absolutely what you should be taking out of this. Thank you, white woman, for a'splainin to the coloreds about how they're being racist.

It's a power thing. It's their way of bullying you for not giving them the attention they think they're entitled to. Sick, huh?

TEAM POOPBLAZER

Wow. Well said. Ok, I guess that changes everything. Thank you.

...No. The standard of professionalism is still "white guy." "Presentable" and "professional" are subjective terms and have a history behind them. I've noticed most black men I work with in a professional setting have nearly identical haircuts - barely longer than an inch - and I'm guessing it has to do with the fact…

P in V is fun, but maybe the least interesting thing about sex. Bodies can do such awesome things with each other. I'm not sure if I've had sex with a guy with a "micropenis" since it seems like a pretty specific term, but I've had sex with men with very small penises and it's just... whatever. Nothing to really even…

Dear Steve Vaillancourt:

Nobody cares about your stupid boner.

I want that tiger in king size, and I don't even own a king size.

If she's worried about how Payton will adjust to the world as a mixed-race child, it boggles my mind that her fantasy was to raise a white little girl in a white little town in the 21st century. Because dude, that little white kid is not going to be well-adjusted to the changing racial demographics and globalizing…

Oh God. Oh God. Oh God. I love urban fantasy. Charles De Lint is one of my favorite authors. I DID NOT KNOW THIS COULD BE PORN. Thank you.

So um... apologies for the derail, but speaking of romance, what *are* the decent romances these days? I believe you that the genre has evolved, but I haven't read any since I was a teenager and I'd really love a spank bank full of interesting, complicated characters and exciting stories to keep me going when I know…

I was 15.