Taking my 14-year old — cannot WAIT!

I have it in my personal email (where I don’t need it) but it hasn’t shown up in my G Suites email yet (where it would actually be more useful). It’s 5pm EST.

Is your sister my mother? My mom was shocked — shocked! — when she was invited to take early retirement after co-workers complained about her “honesty,” which included telling her cubby mate that her pants made her “ass look like the side of a barn.” (That’s the co-worker she’s nice to — imagine what she said to the…

It never occurred to me to take my husband’s name and when I asked him if he cared he looked shocked at the idea that I’d even consider it. My mom was always bitter that she’d changed her name and she changed it right back after they divorced so I grew up with the idea that keeping my own name was a done deal. It…

The shows knows that and speaks to it. Watch on.

I think many people would like that and it doesn’t always happen because life is weird. I’m a therapist so I’ve got an insider view on a lot of different marriages besides my own 28-year relationship and from my perspective, what you’re saying here is naive. Because LOTS of people want what you say you want and lots…

Right?!? Ferris is a sociopath. His sister got a bum deal.

It’s a mistake to assume that any connection one feels for one’s birth parents has ANYTHING to do with the adoptive parents. A person can have great (or awful) adoptive parents and still feel connection to (or no connection to) their birth family. In this case, I have no idea why he went to court but it may have been…

This. I remember during the Anita Hill hearings my aunt (then in her 50s) lamenting the end of workplace flirting. She supported Hill but felt feminists of the day were taking it “too far.” The flirting she described enjoying sure sounded like harassment to me but she had a “men will be men and real women know how to…

Jimmy Carter was (is?) pro-life, which is why he created WIC so that women who had abortions because they couldn’t feed their babies could feed their babies. He didn’t outlaw abortion; he made it more possible for women to parent. What a way to put your values into useful practice instead of forcing them on other…

I’m a counselor and I’ve talked to other counselors who have found out that Facebook is recommending that clients friend each other. In other words, Client A is seeing Client B show up as “someone you may know” and the only connection they have is that they see the same therapist (who is not friends with either of…

I’ve had seven or eight miscarriages. In the middle we had a bio kid and at the end we adopted. Having so little control over my own fertility made me even more pro-choice because I want other women to have control over theirs.

My best friend died of metastatic breast cancer early this summer. One person asked if her previous chemo (for the first round of cancer treatment) was what gave her this cancer. Another complained that her sharing her diagnosis ruined date night for her and her husband (such a downer!). And the psychologist the…

My friend dated a semi-famous comedy person (you would not have heard of her but you would have seen her work) and semi-famous comedy person said that all famous people are fucked up and are needy narcissists including herself; she said otherwise they would not be so desperate for attention. She was also once a writer…

I didn’t say anything about whether or not young adults are able to make rational decisions regarding their own sexuality and agency because I’m not victim-blaming. I said there’s potential for harm and that I see that harm in my office. What I tell young people who are sitting in my office processing the harm from…

Listen, you asked and I answered. You gave reasonable responses to other people who disagree with you so I’m not sure why mine punched your buttons. Just because an 18-year old can be sent to war doesn’t IMHO mean that we can harm them in other ways, too. Legally you’re in the clear and you’re the boss of your ethics…

I’m a 47-year old woman and I don’t find teenagers sexually attractive; they look unfinished. I’m also a therapist who works with adolescents and my professional opinion is that yes, it’s skeevy and potentially harmful. Teenagers often want adults to help them do lots of things that are potentially harmful and it’s up…

Troy is the best break up song ever (second best — Marianne Faithful’s Why’d You Do It but the live version). This one I played full blast for my then 12-year old when she was feeling kicked around by the patriarchy and then we ran around the family room screaming.

That was Manor House (with the sister in law). He was AWFUL.