I wondered the same thing. Like assuming OP is in the US that’s a very specific group to hate.

Two out of the three people you mentioned are black. Melanin has its perks. I’m routinely mistaken for being ten years younger. It’s helpful to remember that black people wrinkle later and develop gray hair later than white people.

Don’t get him a laptop. Depending on where he goes to school and the program he enrolls in, he may have specific requirements and you have no way of knowing if the computer you buy him now will meet that need, especially since you say downthread you’ll buy him one regardless.

It’s cloud cover - not hours of daylight. So we have the same sunrise/sunset as say Rome but you never see the sun. The town I was living in had 211 cloudy days per year, and most of those are sunrise/sunset cloudy i.e. you never, ever saw the sun.

It isn’t THAT dark- almost all of Iceland is below the arctic circle. The sun is up by eleven and starts to go down around 3 but you get two solid hours of dusk/twilight on either end that is great for photography. We had enough daylight to go horseback riding (they put you in a thermal onesie), snorkeling (in a dry…

I’m uncertain as to why you’re assuming “my situation” needs changing, when I’ve made zero reference as to what my situation is. You can keep your The Secret type belief structure to yourself.

If you’re near Boston or DC (and by near I mean within cheap flight distance) and a light packer wow air is cheaper

The key word in Reykjavik is “over christmas”. I’ve been to Reyk in winter and in summer and the rates on accomodations (especially low end) almost double in summer, because the vast majority of tourists go to Iceland in summer. And while I actually preferred Iceland in winter, summer has its own beauty and charms…

Yep. We also focus our efforts on changing the behaviors of those being oppressed rather than those doing the oppressing.

That “black lives matter” so quickly gets mentally translated into “black men matter” is less a product of racism than one of sexism. We live in a society that frequently devalues the rights and existence of women. Issues that affect men are social issues; issues that affect women are “women’s” issues. That black men…

On the other hand, I went to an Ivy, obviously not Harvard and I’m only not mentioning specifically which one b/c I get nervous about doxxing, and to another school that routinely tops the top 10 lists of best schools in the world, and people can be assholes about it.

I’d rather they make out than scream on the phone. And depending on how old they are, on your branch, they may still live at home (as in anyone under thirty)

I’ve seen that couple and I’ve been that couple and while intellectually I’m 100% with you, and yet I’ve done it. On the flip side, I’d MUCH rather watch a couple canoodle than fight. I was stuck on a flight (three pack; I had the window) with a couple that spent six hours fighting. I really wanted to tell them to…

that’s the other thing they do! it’s one or the other and it’s really weird! I was at a party and the guy was like I went to college “outside of boston” so I assumed he meant Harvard but didn’t want to say it, so I asked a mutual friend and she was like “no, what, he went to BC”

I don’t know that many Yalies but I do know a few Harvard grads and they actually do call it Harvard never college, even years out. Like, I might say that back in undergrad xyz happened, and they’ll say, “back at Harvard xyz happened” so much so I’ve told a few to stop since I know where they went to college and it’s…

I think it’s important to divorce Ronda’s transphobic language from the substance of her argument. I don’t think many people would argue that how she said what she said wasn’t transphobic, and revealed a bias. At the same time, because it was so transphobic I think the substance of her argument - that there may be a…

I’m a baby about my bjj injuries. I have my orthopedist and my physical therapist on speed dial, it’s hard because the inuries (for me) seem to be all joint etc. My current physio though finally put me on a course to strengthen my joints to make them less likely. And I tap like crazy.

I’m a woman and I don’t exactly train mma but I train brazilian jiu jitsu (the ground stuff) and I say do it. Rousey is grounded in judo, but I don’t do judo because I hate being thrown, and I don’t train kickboxing because I hate being punched (and in terms of pure self-defense with an untrained person you don’t need…

I haven’t read it, but I should!

I feel like “Are You, There God, It’s Me Margaret” gets all of the thunder, along with the Fudge books, Sheila the Great, and Blubber. But when I was a youngin’ it was all about “Starring Sally J. Freedman as Herself” which was the first BIG book I ever read (amazon says it’s a hefty 400 pages to Margaret’s 192) that…