Depends. I had my first serious relationship starting when I was 19 and he was 29, and it was an amazing first love and I still care for him deeply. He treated me a lot more respectfully than a lot of the guys my age I dated before and around that same time, and we had a genuine friendship before and after the…

I think maybe he thought they were “dating” and she only remembers it as “hanging out” but as far as I know she doesn’t deny that they did, in fact, hang out for a bit until she realised she had no interest in him? I think it’s wishful thinking on his part to claim their hanging out was dating and if anything it just…

They sound like a pain in the ass and I’m surprised the neighbours even bother inviting them. 

This. her music had never felt real to me, and her persona is very inauthentic. Janelle and Rihanna are infinitely more interesting and compelling and authentic.

The fundies also list AT&T as a company that gives money to Planned Parenthood. 

Maiysha Kai is the only writer on this site to include that quote in her coverage of this story. The children masquerading as writers at Jez are too hungry for clicks and cheap outrage to bother with anything resembling critical thought and/or nuance. And if you make this point they act like you’re Dunham (who I can’t…

“The first thing that I would advise is to not make assumptions”

This.

I think the argument being made is that the catch would be, they would only get to opt out if women did too (by having an abortion, which would have to be legal). So men’s ability to opt out would be contingent on abortions being legal. I don’t think it’s very feasible but it’s an interesting argument, from a…

I adore Siri Hustvedt and I can’t wait to read this latest book. I’ve loved all her books but What I Loved is one of my favourite novels of all time, one of those books whose characters stay with you forever. Speaking of being overshadowed by male genius, I only discovered Hustvedt through her husband, Paul Auster.…

She also apologized after, which everyone seems to forget. However, I’m not apologizing for calling out this blog’s repeated hypocrisy and selectivity, and for making women’s rapes about what other women’s reactions are which is counterproductive, to say the least. Obviously, people have a hard time believing their…

I think Dre’s trash, actually, but since we’re on the topic of women’s careers, I mentioned Dee Barnes.

It’s not just abortion. Stop having sex with men without first discussing birth control and don’t do it with men who think it’s the woman’s problem, not their. Stop having kids with men who don’t treat women like equal partners, don’t make women’s issues a priority when it comes to voting, and don’t do their share of…

So it’s Lena Dunham’s responsibility? 

Um, that’s my whole point. I’m not saying Lena shouldn’t be called out, I’m saying call people out equally and not selectively. Jez can’t ever call out their problematic faves and develops ridiculous pet hates for women who aren’t any worse than the women they put on pedestals. Also, don’t inflate their actions to the…

You’re not seeing my point. I actually like Ava DuVernay a lot more than Dunham, who I don’t like at all. And I despised Girls (or at least the season and a half I was able to force myself to watch to see what the hype was about). Jezebel has a history of holding women accountable for men’s actions, but conveniently…

And Dee Barnes was struggling with homelessness very recently. Dre’s assault of Dee Barnes affected her career too and to add insult to injury it was left out of the movie DuVernay was praising because she was nostalgic about that period in her life. Everyone fucks is up. I’m not calling for DuVernay to be excoriated,…

Defending an abuser of women and a movie that treated women as objects vs. Not wanting to believe your close friend is a rapist and defending him. I don’t see much of a difference, to be honest. Either be tough on both DuVernay and Dunham or let both off the hook but don’t pick and choose depending on who you like…

I wonder if the guy who actually raped her apologised. You’d think that would be more important than Lena Dunham’s apology. 

Lena’s a pain but it’s also kind of tired of Jezebel’s selective mean girling masquerading as feminism. Notice that her rapist is just mentioned in passing but most of the vitriol is reserved for Lena Dunham. And Ava DuVernay wasn’t exactly worried about solidarity with other women when she was publicly singling the…