Yup. My brother’s wife kicked him out 3 months after their first was born because he was being a shitty unequal partner and she was sick of nagging. Freaked him the fuck out, he got his shit together and was allowed to move back home three months later. They had more kids and he’s an amazing dad and partner now, and…

It’s not that they want kids or not, it’s that they leave that decision up to the women because there’s already a built in assumption that it’s women who will be the primary parent. 

I’ve never seen that in real life. My sister, the vast majority of my friends, it started once they moved in together. They were already having to nag their men to do their share before marriage, they were the ones reminding them of relatives’ birthdays, didn’t get involved in the wedding planning, etc. The writing…

Sure it doesn’t start that way but why add more kids to the mix then? I used to think there was no such thing as maternal instinct either but I’m starting to question that because it makes no sense otherwise. It’s either a biological push to have kids or masochism.

Thank you. This is basically my sister. She was already the one doing all that when they were just living together pre marriage. Of course he’s an unequal partner and a shitty co-parent. And yet she still had a 2nd kid with him and is now angrier and more miserable than when she had just the one. I could see putting…

This is the part I don’t get. It’s like, if he’s a shitty parent after one kid, why are you having more?

I’ve never wanted kids but I’m always about why women are willing to have more kids with men who are unequal parents, especially after having a kid or two with a guy you know isn’t going to change into an equal parent. Not trying to single you out I’m just genuinely curious why you would want more kids when you know…

How has he been a dickhead (before this, I mean)? I feel like Charles is in the somewhat unenviable position of having been subjected to the traditional monarchy rules (like having diana foisted on him instead of being allowed to marry who he wanted because camilla wasn’t a blushing virgin) yet subjected to the type…

People protect sexual abusers at every social level. Whether it’s the village priest in a poor town or a bishop, there will always be people on their entourage protecting and believing them over the accusers. Women of every social class cover for their husbands every day, or are in denial about the abuse, even when…

It’s always been hard to find nice bras in large cup sizes though, if anything that’s one area where sizing and variety has improved.

I don’t go out of my way to show nipple but if I catch a glimpse of nipple outline in the bathroom at work or something I don’t feel like I have to cover them up with bandaids or something, like some of my coworkers. 

Negronis are the best so maybe that’s why I find a well made Aperol to be a good summery alternative? 

I love a good Aperol spritz but it has to be well made. The article is a hot take but it does have a point about keeping the sweetness to a minimum and letting the herbal/bitterness of the drink to come through so good prosecco is key.

Hillary had negative charisma. 

Of course he was electable. It’s just that electable means different things for republican and Democratic candidates. 

Welcome to Jezebel/Splinter. 

No, it’s code for charisma. Barack Obama had it. Bill Clinton had it. Hillary had negative charisma despite her stellar qualifications on everything else. John Kerry didn’t have it. Biden has it, even with the hugging. Buttigieg has it. Kamala might have it too but I need to hear her speak more. It’s too bad Michelle…

The centrist maintain the status quo and will as long as Americans remain, on the whole, a conservative society. The big cities may be liberal but the rest of America isn’t, even in democratic leaning areas. It’s kind of changing but not fast enough to make a difference in 2020. 

Not if his opponent is Trump. There’s nothing Biden can say that can top Trump’s idiocy. 

Unless a unicorn comes along who’s both strong on issues and charismatic and charming (i.e. Obama), charisma trumps the issues every time for Democratic candidates. Hillary was the most qualified candidate in decades but personality wise she was a total dud. I wish that didn’t matter but it does. To pretend otherwise…