I saw a Star Trek ep the other day where they beam-me-up-scotty’d a fetus right out of a lady who was having labor complications. I was impressed and jealous.

Exactly. I want to live in a country where you can make those choices if you want to, but I sure don’t understand those choices myself.

I’ve been told that there’s something fundamentally wrong with me since I’m not terribly interested in reproducing. “Life wants to create more life! And if you don’t, you’re *broken!*”

Your acknowledgement of this makes you an excellent person to raise other people in my estimation!

Don’t want to accidentally send the wrong message to the adopted kids, either!

If my body tells me it is not very good at doing a thing, I don’t feel inclined to argue with it.

I especially don’t get it when I start to hear people who aren’t having kids called “selfish.” Sure, maybe we are, but SO ARE YOU, because if you have kids because you want them then it’s something you’re doing for yourSELF. Self. Ish. I mean, it’s totally fine to do it, but don’t act like having a kid is all about…

I agree. I kinda think Beyonce used a surrogate, too, and I hope the lady she picked to hook her up got a nice paycheck out of it. If she did, I’m happy. Whatever they want to do.

I’m so sorry that happened to you! (And as someone who has fought nothing-to-do-with-pregnamcy depression, I definitely have some fear that it would happen to me)

Yeah, I thought about that. Having no other option make me feel defiant about it vs me being able to choose.

Yup, I guess just different likes and dislikes and brains. I’m glad you had good experiences!

:) I wonder what it feels like to have a dick, but I’m not willing to go through the surgery and hormone therapy to make that happen, either.

I’m not totally against having kids, but even if I do it will be in spite of having to do the physical reproduction part. Wanting to avoid pregnancy is probably not a good enough reason to avoid the whole experience of people-raising, if people-raising is what you want to do.

Yes! A jar! It would be pretty fun to watch the development this way, too. I’m reminded of having a classroom tadpole to observe the transformation to frog.

I imagine that were I in your position I would probably feel something like that. Congratulations and (sincere, in case I’m sounding sarcastic) best wishes to you for the scary childbirth part!!!

I need to be more thankful for the fact that all the Lutherans I’m related to have yet to pester me about childbearing even though I’m married and headed toward over-ripe

I was like 14 when I first realized that not everyone thinks like this. Walking in the mall with also 14yo friend who spies a preggo and says “ohhhhhhh she’s so luckyyyy!”

!!!!!!! Okay!

The closest analogy I can think of us when you make holodeck programs about your real life shipmates!! Gross!!

Someone please explain to me *always wanting to experience pregnancy and childbirth.* Wanting to have kids? Sure. Wanting to have kids with your own genes? Sure. Being sad that your body doesn’t function the way typical bodies do? Okay, I think I get that, too. But the article doesn’t say it like any of those.