4 pickleball games can be played in a tennis court, the matches finish much faster than tennis, less strenuous, and a lot of areas are open play so pickleball allows for way way more people with diverse skill and physical abilities to participate in the same space.

did this comment make sense to you as you were typing?

Some of the most cringe-worthy people I know are obsessed with pickle ball. It the new squash/handball.

Interesting. I did thirteen years of Catholic school, went to an all-girls high school where we taught to speak up. “¯\_(ツ)_/¯“

There is no anti pick me. These are all just regular pick-me types, the common theme being, “hey guys! I’m not like those other girls! Look at me!”

Over the counter birth control? Welcome to the 20th century America.

Fuck. The internet is so exhausting sometimes...

I just want to see Jamie Lee Curtis win SOMETHING for the “Fishes” episode of The Bear. Holy shit was she laying it all out there. I made my husband watch that episode (he had not watched any of the series before) and he sat there stunned after it was over. 

This is probably an unkind thing to say about someone I never met, but I’m kinda glad her mom died too.

In addition to this mom’s abuse, the obsession with keeping child stars from growing up is very much a network thing.

Kim is a scab.

Wrong. Boundary setting would have been for him to recognise that his wants and needs from a woman were not aligned with who she is, and exiting the relationship with no hard feelings. Demanding SHE changes who she is and what she does for him is not boundary setting, it’s control.

How do think an abusive relationship starts?

A boundary is saying ‘I’m not cool with this so I’m going to walk away.’ Coercion is saying ‘I’m not cool with this so you need to change it or I’ll walk away.’ Glad we could clear that up!

It can be manipulative in that someone may be trying to leverage the time and effort that their partner has invested in the relationship to try and pressure them into changing.  You drop the “hey I need you to completely change how you do your job” requirement before the start of a relationship and it’s a lot more…

Yeah this the one that took it to emotional manipulation. The “list” is cringy and a big red flag, this text is pretty clear manipulation.

Oh ffs. This is just some gibberish re-wording of exactly the problem. He was not setting HIS “boundaries.” 

I think what makes it manipulative is that he started a relationship with someone who was a professional surfer, who’s social media history and presence including oodles of this content that he wanted her to get rid of, and he appears to have not mentioned that beforehand only bringing up during the relationship. If…

Therapy can be so helpful. But a lot of people don’t realize that getting diagnosed and framing your issues pathologically is only the beginning of the journey. You have to put in actual work to improve yourself.

I can’t help but think of Russell Brande who is now some woke af recovery guru. He may have done the work, I hope he has. Every time I see his smug mug I am reminded that he ended his marriage with Katy Perry via text.