Yes.

Oh yeah, I feel you, which is in part what made me so dismissive as a teenager of the sage old lady advice coming at me — some of it felt very retrograde/out of touch, though other aspects of it were right on. I should've probably clarified to get yourself a COOL older lady friend.

That's not what I meant in the slightest. I wasn't talking about women not helping other women, but more about the way a lot of young people feel antagonistic about authority figures, which I think is true for men and women both. In my case, as I wrote with the older women in my family, it wasn't that I thought any of…

Why don't they just take her on as an oral history project? Allow her to remain at her base rent, with the condition that she records her memories of the neighborhood for use at the Museum. Everybody wins, nobody's a charity case.

I mean.

So...I took an Uber home about two weeks ago and lived to tell the tale. It was uneventful. The guy was nice, car was clean and he took me exactly where I needed and nothing else happened.

This is a really bad analogy.

That... doesn't really make sense? Why would the police not contact them because they're illegal? I could see THEM not contacting the POLICE because they're illegal, but police deal with illegal situations like... as a job requirement.

Uber won't even pick me up anymore because every time I order one I'm super drunk and my phone dies and then I just wander around until I find my way home.

Yea, but it's cheaper.

Sorry to be 'that med student' but this article mentions that she had an oophorectomy . While this is technically true (because she did have her ovaries removed), she also had her fallopian tubes removed, so the more accurate term for the procedure would be a salpingo-oophorectomy.

nah, it's situation specific obviously, but I started flipping people off for cat calls and such when I was 21-ish. (which was a big deal because i'm quite shy)

I tell people my dog died. It makes them feel like shit. I started this a few years ago and it brings me great joy!

More women are possibly opting out because there are so many "progressive" men who still look at childcare through the lens of the 50's. What's interesting to me is the fear about autonomy. Sure, you won't have as much when you have a kid, but if you have a supportive partner, you CAN read the paper in silence on a…

It definitely is an interesting trend, but I don't have much (any) hope that it will encourage even a conversation on the topic of unequal childcare roles. Even in the text above, they have quotes from people who have wonderful progressive households... and it's just a given that the man will work and the woman will…

And I should add that we saw our moms do it, but we also see other women do it every single day, and know intimately of their complaints.

Today, even with women working, they still do more of the child rearing. Worse, even in the best 50/50 split parenting partnerships, the blame lies with the woman. How many times have you heard "Momma didn't raise him right" or some subset of that? The implication is that mothers are largely at fault when something…

Even in a progressive, liberal, feminist household like ours, there was still that idea that the woman will stay home and the guy will keep working

Tons of women I know are ambivalent about having kids and I think a big part of the reason is that they know they are going to have to pick up the majority of child care and other child duties and they know it will affect their career.