But… but…. but…. (and the white apologists begin)…. she had diabetes…IN HER FAMILY! (taking a drug that would not be indicated for a disease you don't really have)

Let's look at silver linings. They could have cast Emma Stone!

1. I think it is very healthy and aspirational to create 'what I want in a mate' lists. But they are best viewed as starting negotiating points. Sure there might be one or two things that are non-negotiable (he can't have six kids from five different women) but for the most part I think a person would relieve so…

Outside of the 'we no longer have life or death stuff to worry about' so we are pissing at the Oscars, cheap shot, my least favorite aspect of his monologue was his drag of Jada. it is reductive to say she's boycotting just because Will didn't get nominated. It was a horrible thing to laugh at a black actress for…

His monologue reminded me of his Good Hair movie. It tried it, but missed some important nuance.

I did the 20s with potential thing. I was fast track he was following a dream. It came out beautifully for us. Still together 20 years later.

I am guessing that she has probably assimilated more into white culture than just her physical surroundings. She sounds intimidated. She clearly doesn't understand her biggest hurdle has already been jumped. She just needs to start the convo.

I am always here for black female friendships. Where I work the black female workforce is smallish and somewhat scattered around departments and trying to forge a close 'girlfriend' relationship can be difficult as we don't interact enough to create that sort of bond. But we make a point to acknowledge and all know…

Yup. There is just so much psychological baggage that needs to be unpacked in that statement. It is exhausting to be a woman (prob. a WOC) of a certain age, who is barraged with statistics about relationships and availability of men. She has to do some serious mental calculus, i.e. (age + race) x (years invested…

Between this, the Obama and kids hashtag, and Obama acknowledging Black History month because somebody shouts out "Heeey Michelle, Girl…." It is finally hitting me how much I will miss them when they are not longer in office.

"I aint got all day to sound out words"

Wait… he has a face?

Soo… basically what you're saying is this is kinda like the Starbucks Christmas cup? One guy…a whole lot of outrage?

Yes. That is what I mean why this particular debate feels so alien to me. I may sound like I am coming off as "why back in my day…." codger but I can truly say that those of us in my circle whether PWI or HBCU just felt grateful and privileged that we were able to go to college. Some kids literally COULD NOT GO for…

I feel completely out of the loop on the whole PWI vs. HBCU thing. I must preface this by saying I am 43 years old and finished my college degrees about 20 years ago. I went to a PWI. But it only felt like one on a macro, educational level. On a social level we black students created our own social culture and…

For me Tina Fey, Amy Schumer and Amy Poehler are all the same shade of problematic. They are white feminists who practice white feminism and get handed cookies and rainbows for it. But underneath they are all appalling in their racefail in places. I remember Tina Fey and Amy Poehler were given an issue of…

In her memoir there is evidence of casual racism that she kinda shrugs away…

Not only that but Misty Copeland's A Ballerina's Tale also dropped this week. Blackity, black, black, black indeed!

Sheeeee-it even Rachel Dolezal is more woke than Stacy. Think about that for a minute.

Ok, So I went down the rabbit hole on this one and found the beef. It came down to money and management. It sounded like Maxine and Dawn were not happy with it and Cindy and Terry were and they could not agree. It was divisive enough that it fractured the group, but not sexy in the TLC versus Pebbles way that…