So did I. I even bought a dress that is likely to be the triple-whammy of sheer, unlined, and unflattering! Is this not why online shopping exists?

You mean harder for a woman to be the higher-desire partner? Because it is. Trust me. Everyone just thinks you're doing something wrong because your husband doesn't want you. You must nag or be ugly or he must not find you attractive. It's none of those - it's that he just doesn't want it as much as you. And there is…