I saw a thread on that this morning; he’s not local PD, apparently, but SWAT.

Wanted Black men to be free. There’s a difference.

So how do you feel about the women he killed?

My parents think my sister is going to burn in hell for all eternity for being a lesbian, marrying a lesbian, refusing to repent or read their books about how she's not really a lesbian, but wonder WHY OH WHY won't she talk to them, why has she cut off all contact with them? I mean, they "love" her after all!!!

Thank you. You are incredibly brave to basically face what was done to you for a living while keeping your composure. I wouldn't be able to do it.

I regret that I have but one star to give for this post. </notnathanhale>

Ugh, this a thousand times. Without elaborating, this is the shit my sister and I deal with every year around the holidays and it drives us insane. There's a reason I moved away.

TRUTH.

"I think sometimes abusive parents have a tendency to believe the lies they've told themselves about how wonderful their children's childhoods were. Particularly if their children turned out to be decent adults."

A star simply is insufficient. My hat is off to you!

Congratulation on your success. You are an amazing human being. The fact the you are now helping people is fantastic. I wish you a happy life and I hope you have a happy family of your own.

Yep. Also, if you're financially well-off, successful in your career, and had a materially comfortable childhood, you were treated fine. Material goods and attention cover up a lot, I think. This is why my aunt doesn't call my grandmother's treatment of her emotional/verbal abuse. Because everything looked fine and…

Lies like how mine claimed to have given up everything they've ever had so that I could have a life (I'm sorry? I did not ask to be born? It was not my decision?). Somehow in their version, they were always the victim and I was the transgressor... like getting a B in high school (what horror! a B, my son's a loser!)

200%! This is my grandmother's mentality to a T. She doesn't understand why her kids don't want to have a relationship with her and actively makes shit up about the kind of mother she was. It's like, lady, if everyone else has a different recollection of events than you do, maybe you're the problem.

Or the famous line, "At least you we fed/clothed/gave you shelter!"

Cannot give enough stars. The worst thing about child abusers isn't the abuse, horrific and damaging though it is. It's the fact that absolutely no truth can get through their ego, particularly the part about what great parents they were.

That's exactly the case in my life. After years of physical and emotional abuse and neglect, suddenly they're all "we always believed in her and we knew she'd make something of herself. We've always supported her in every thing she's done" and I just want to scream when I hear them saying these things to my in laws.…

I have heard this one too.

Anecdotal story: I cut my father and mother out of my life when I went to college because they were incredibly toxic and abusive. Fast forward four years. Both parents (they were divorced by then) randomly show up at my college graduation, both spouting how they "raised me right" and that's why I was the first person…

Especially if another child tells them it wasn't so bad, like my sibling did. He was barely home and didn't seem to enrage the parent as much as I did, I think I reminded my dad of his sister..(who is evil)