I mean the thing is once you start acknowledging how many incarcerated women have childhood trauma you might end up taking a look into how many incarcerated men have it, regardless of what they ended up in prison for. It kind of feels weird that she just skips over exactly what her cousin did in these gangs. Maybe she…

I really fucking loathe the term “himpathy”. A lot of it just seems to be taking the excuses institutions use to defend horrible men at face value. Trump and the GOP didn’t feel “himpathy” for Brett Kavanaugh; they were just personally invested in getting him appointed and fundamentally didn’t care about Ford’s…

What if you’re still maturing and figuring out life at 35 though? Why are you assuming everyone matures at the same rate?

What I’m disputing is the idea that brain development should be the metric for consent and that there’s an easy way to determine who has more power in a relationship. Anyone can be vulnerable to exploitation and manipulation but how do you not see the issue in declaring something nonconsensual purely based on a…

Absolutely but people with intellectual disabilities are also frequently prevented from having consensual sex, even with other intellectually disabled people. That’s why brain maturity is a bad metric. Age gaps are problematic due to power dynamics, not because you magically become an adult at 25.

The prefrontal cortex finishes developing at 25 but the rest of your brain never stops developing.

I just do not think brain maturity should ever be used to judge who gets to do what. It’s the same logic that leads to intellectually disabled people being denied any sexual agency whatsoever and sterilized so they don’t have kids.

The “fully adult brain” is a myth. It’s literally the same logic people are using to deny young trans people transition care; “they’re too young to understand the consequences”. Do you guys not see how reactionary you’re being? Just say the guy’s a creep, you don’t need to rationalize it.

Yeah, the “fully-formed” thing is pop science and even if it were true, it’s incredibly ableist to judge agency and maturity simply by how developed your brain is. Saying people under 30 shouldn’t be allowed to marry is absolutely ridiculous. Trying to restrict the agency of young people only leaves them under further…

Can we please stop acting like “fully formed brains” are a sign of maturity? I’m autistic; I will never have the kind of “fully-formed” brain that neurotypical people have. I’m still an adult.

Oh my god, people in their 20s are not babies! Stop infantilizing grown adults! And the primary reason Betty Draper was like that was because she was a college educated woman stuck in the role of a 50s housewife, not because she married right after college. My mom got married when she was 23 and started having…

I’m sorry am I the only person who finds this comment incredibly creepy? You can acknowledge how skeevy DiCaprio’s being without infantilizing 20 year olds. There’s no magic age where you suddenly stop being exploitable. It is a red flag when older men consistently go after younger women, but that does not mean…

That’s not really true though. Your prefrontal cortex does finish developing at 25 but your brain never really stops developing. And if we’re measuring consent based on brain development, then a lot of disabled and neurodivergent people would just not be allowed to have sex at all.

I think a lot of people fell for it after hearing that audio where she admits to hitting him and sounds kind of abusive. And people didn’t want to admit they were wrong and that they’d fallen for a smear campaign, so they just doubled down and fell into Depp’s cult.

I think we’ve had more leftist uprisings in the past decade than people realize- they’ve just mostly been about civil rights and police brutality, so until 2020 they were brushed off as riots. The George Floyd protests didn’t lead to much material change, but they definitely scared the shit out of powerful liberals…

Eh, the award is for general humanitarian efforts, not just for being disabled. In fact it’s kind of nice to see a disabled person being honored for this kind of thing, rather than a Jerry Lewis savior type.

The thing is, Depp basically poisoned the well. He basically ran a massive smear campaign to portray himself as the victim. It’s called DARVO. OJ Simpson did it. Brian Laundrie did it. But most people don’t have time to look into it very closely, so they just go on the fact that she sounds bad in a single edited audio.

Depp has a restraining order against him too and Heard doesn’t have a history of beating her spouse; she has a single arrest that her partner claimed was a misunderstanding.

Wait, are you saying abuse victims should be considered abusers for fighting back?

The thing is most people haven’t really watched the full trial or even looked at much of the evidence. They’ve heard that one audio and they’ve seen TikToks and Youtube videos all off which are pretty much universally pro-Depp. The public is getting a very skewed narrative.