Classier response than mine would have been. Fuck victim-blaming. Some folks need to learn the facts about the dynamics of abuse.

Yes, intelligent, strong women can be in abusive relationships! thanks for this comment.

Yeah, I’ve had all kinds of sex, not all of it particularly awesome. I’ve had quite a bit where I wasn’t particularly in the mood but did it anyway as a gift to the boyfriend, I’ve had drunk sex including some where I blacked out immediately after giving consent. Saying “stop” and being ignored is in a different…

Okay this is a really gross response. You should feel bad you wrote this. It’s shitty as hell.

Thanks for sharing. It’s difficult enough to get women to speak out about their assaults but to get men to speak up, especially about being assaulted by a woman. We as a culture are taught men can’t be assaulted, but that’s not true. I hope things get better for you. I hate to sound cliche but therapy has been a big…

This happened in the last year of our relationship, I guess I should have specified. And the term you’re looking for to describe him is sadist, not masochist. You could at least get your terminology right before making these kind of comments, these exact kind of comments, that women are used to getting, these kind of…

Something similar happened to me too and the worst thing (besides the act itself) was trying to tell friends about it (I never pressed charges). People are convinced that it can’t be rape if it was your boyfriend/partner/husband. “Just move on, it’s just sex.” No, it isn’t.

Spoiler alert: she dies in the remake also...

Remaking Beaches should be a damn crime.

JFC, that’s one of the worst things I’ve ever heard. (Not that it took you a while to leave, i mean his behavior in the circumstance). So glad you’re with us.

How can they call it an “Original” when it’s a remake? Silly Lifetime.

God. That’s fucking awful. Raping someone who’s incapacitated by a suicide attempt - just beyond depraved. What the fuck is wrong with people? I hope with time, we can all build trust.

OMG, I am reading this thread and having a complete “total recall” moment. Talking about rape by a intimate partner and BDSM mixed into it...

No. No one asked for a Beaches remake. Just show the original movie.

Well, if I’m ever in a relationship again, you’ll be the first to know. I’m in school now, so my focus isn’t on chicks or dudes, but dang if this twin mattress doesn’t get awful lonely at night.

As a man, my sexual assault by a former girlfriend is something I still haven’t gotten over. I find it hard to trust, and being queer like Evan Rachel Wood, it really makes me uncomfortable around potential male partners. I sometimes try to convince myself it wasn’t rape, but if it wasn’t rape, why do I feel the way I…

Totally. And when you throw BDSM into the mix it’s even worse. I’ve only talked about mine with a few people and on forms because who’s going to believe he sexually assaulted me when I agreed to be tied up to the bedpost and blindfolded but drew the line when I didn’t know what foreign object he was sticking inside…

I appreciate that a lot too. I ws raped multiple times by an abusive boyfriend. I was also raped shortly afterward by someone I considered my best friend. I became pregnant and decided to keep the baby, but miscarried. The whole experience was hellish. But I feel I am so strong now, 20 years later. I survived 17 years…

I was raped by a “significant other” 14 years ago. I haven’t been in a long term relationship (longer than a month) since, even with 9 years of therapy. You’re so right, it’s particularly disturbing.

I really appreciate her bringing up the fact it was a significant other who was responsible for one of her rapes. I can’t speak to other kinds of rape, but I will say that rape by someone you’re involved with, someone you’ve had consensual sex with, possibly many times, is a particular kind of mind fuck. The urge to…