Sure, that’s a fair reading. Obviously this is a thing that annoys a lot of people. My take on it is that he was keeping his feelings to himself and trying to stay away from her, she watched the wedding video after he asked her not to. At that point she knows how he feels, so it’s already become her problem, and I…

Hugh-Jack, as another straight liberal white guy with a beard I wanted to respond to this article. Then I took a pause and asked myself “Is my opinion actually constructive to this conversation?” and “Am I just trying to make myself feel better for what I may or may not have done?”

Do you see how this response is exactly what Gelman was talking about? Instead of looking inward to examine your own biases, you presume someone is “talking down” to you when he’s discussing his own experience and asking for a greater variety of voices to work with and watch.

The irony. FUCKING CHRIST.

There are a lot of straight white guys who deserved to be talked down to about their wokeness (which they think they are perfect on), tho.

YOUR MOM'S A DISNEY FILM PERHAPS

But he didn't need to do it with placards. He could have sent her an email. Or just called her up and been like "Yeah, sorry, I do have a thing for you, but I've always respected blah blah blah." Instead he made his announcement/"apology" in the most romantic, sappy way (complete with music!) that made it all about…

My darling Lindy,

Hey Lindy-