I am 27 now and I have genuinely stopped seeing otherwise cool people because I didn’t want to teach them how to have sex*. For me, an aloofness or a lack of awareness that they suck is a bad sign. I had one guy in particular who was sensitive and artistic and when we were just kissing/messing around it really seemed…

If a guy like that can let go of his pride, and relax into enjoying being with you and pleasuring you, he might find that erection comes back. Unless it’s a real physiological problem, like diabetes or something.

We don’t deserve Janelle Monae.

In that case, give them one do-over..... First fucks can be nerve-wracking performances, many people aren’t really on their game first time around. If the second fuck is just as bad and awkward, and that chemistry you SWORE must be there just isn’t, then bail.

Some of the commenters, certainly. So much racist crap you could fill a BINGO card just by scrolling, even though that’s AV Club typical, which is kind of sad.  

To me, the main problem with bad sex is that it puts me off sex for like, a month afterward. And if you endure enough bad sexual episodes, you can become so turned off that you never want sex again.

Ditto! I also feel the same way about Jonathan Franzen.

To really make some money sh should charge a dollar for all the people who have trophy copies on their bookshelf/*just lying around* and have never opened it

The fact that so many white men get so defensive simply over being referred to as “white men,” which you see all day long in every comment section on the internet, is a testament to how infrequently the words “white men” have been used in the past, because that’s always just been the assumed default setting. A white…

Being a DFW fanboy is one of my red flags when I start dating someone. The venn diagram of those guys and chronic mansplainers is a circle. This gives me even more reason to nope out when someone starts talking about Infinite Jest on the first date.

I’ve known enough assholes whose favorite writer is DFW that its now an instant red flag for me. I didn’t know about Karr but I’m definitely not surprised.

“Thank you. Everybody in America owes me a dollar who read Infinite Jest.”

So is the av club going to cover Vol. 2?

Shit, if they don’t like the title just don’t watch it. Not that hard.

Communication! And selecting partners who listen and are willing to tell you what they need and want as well, and who respect you and your boundaries. That’s really all it is.

With time you learn what you like, what you don’t, what works for you, and what doesn’t.

Agreed, definitely can be awkward the first time you sleep with someone. That’s why, generally, I have that type of conversation after hooking up with someone once or twice.

*disclaimer I am a dude, so your mileage may vary*

Counterpoint: Don’t fuck someone like that.

So is this a horror movie? I can’t imagine a worse nightmare than being a woman and hearing the thoughts of men around me