Super gal who could one day be your friend-thread! Okay, so I’m serious. I need friends who I’ve got some common interests or emotional connection to. I’m happy to communicate online, but what I’m sort of missing is that sit-down-for-coffee friend. I’m in New England (reluctant to give more details). See, I had a best…

Context, pal. Context. Read the other commenters saying you sound like a Jesus freak (the point is not whether or not you’re religious in real life). If you’re already sitting at the bar within shouting distance of said woman, what the hell is wrong with “Hi, how’s it going”. See, that is something that nearly anyone…

What I found worked best for me was simply to say, “Hi, my name is (Arnheim). Do you have a minute to chat?”

I know your comment was semi-humor / performance art. But........if you’re looking to get paid doing this, you’d have to go quite a bit further than that. For one thing, if you know anything about the psychology of these harassers, you know that straight-up advice “Don’t do this don’t do that” is worthless to them and…

Whether or not you agree with work parties, the fact is you are AT WORK. All employers who are even slightly responsible hold supervisors responsible for protecting employees. In other words, they have certain responsibility for preventing harassment. At the office work party, the Supervisor should be sweating buckets…

At least your sentences are short and concise. 🙂

I’ve worked as a cat behaviorist, shelter worker and veterinary nurse (now have moved on to Biology though I’ve studied wild cats as well). Standard behavioral methods have been tried and tested for decades now, and they only fail if they’re taught incorrectly, taught by someone who is incompetent or implemented wrong…

Just for the record, cats don’t get jealous. They’re solitary animals and they can seem jealous but often it’s other things. You might want to hire a behaviorist or ask the shelter for free advice because while it’s great the older kitty is doing well, with kids and cats challenges are always sure to crop up and it’s…

I’m really glad to hear that! I think nuanced discussions are important online esp. when others aren’t listening 🙂

I think it’s very common to get over-enthusiastic when a riveting conversation is going on. Most of us have the same wants, but when women are discussing harassment just remind yourself that this is an extremely volatile time and women need to be listened to above all else. 🙂 You sound very considerate.

Holy fuck. 😡😡😡

Maybe men could shut the fuck up for ten seconds.

Former veterinary nurse here (and shelter worker who’s had to poison close to 1,000 cats in her lifetime, most of them friendly and healthy). Totally disgusted with the last sentence. If you don’t give a flying shit about cats, at least care about the humans / animal professionals who’ll have to clean up the mess you…

IMO that’s what must happen next, these stories would make an impact.

Oh, I still run it through in my head what it will be like when I finally put the screws to my harasser. I dream about it every goddamned day. I want to see his name in the newspaper, and not in a good way.

Look, I can’t imagine anything someone could say after assaulting at least one woman.........that would satisfy me.

Me too. ✨😑

What do you think the NBC execs are doing right now? I think they’re guzzling expensive champagne on leather couches and sobbbing about their ruined lives.

Srsly. I don’t know where she gets off. I just keep picturing her at some fancy Thanksgiving meal with that phony smile, passing around the mashed potatoes while she sneers at some couple who hasn’t gotten married.

It’s basic respect, and I think normal folks tend to notice the people who,break the rule more then we notice how many people don’t break the rule. An aside: I’ve always worked in hands-on professions and mostly the tasks that require being physical are so demanding and distracting (in my job: restraining freaked out…