I really, really don't think you should be feeling uncomfortable about dating someone a week after the breakup, if he didn't even wait two days after you broke up with him to sleep with someone. But if you say you're going on a date, you will be having a series of either passive-aggressive skirting-the-issue…

"Our sex life is decent" and "I don't value sex THAT much" are coming off as red flags to me. A lot of the sex you have in late teens/early 20s can really suck. Guys at that age can genuinely be awful in the sack—and it's not unlikely that this was the case for the three guys you slept with before your current…

I might be weird for this, but I vote "NO." I can think of nothing that turns me off quicker than a guy sending a generic "How are you?"/"How's your day?" text before we've met. The reasons for why are tough for me to explain, but the message I usually get about his personality is: (1) he's needy, (2) he doesn't have…

If you mean "constantly" literally—as in, you hear video games when you get home from work to when you're trying to go to bed, and music from 2pm to midnight on weekends—then it is very likely that your neighbors smoke and drink a lot and aren't keeping the apartment in good repair. Call the landlord, and when he…

I've spotted the same trend. If you really want to make a difference in people's lives, teach here in the United States.

Even more bare bones truth: some people don't feel like they owe someone an explanation if there hasn't been a lot of getting physical. I know that I used to be really flaky about this, where I assume that if we weren't having sex, we were casual and I don't owe them explanations for my behavior.

Is it that intense a situation? She said this "was overheard," which means that it's likely someone else heard her saying it to someone else. Maybe it was a "hubba hubba I'd stay late for him any time" joke. Maybe it was a less-cool "I find him attractive and don't mind if he's married!" comment. Jumping to diagnosing…

Laura Mercier primer and tinted moisturizer is a-ma-zing. Each one is like $45, but there really aren't drugstore versions of them. I don't buy pricy mascara or powder because I feel like there are a thousand of those every time I'm in the aisles; good primer and tinted moisturizer are hard to find! Strongly…

I agree: I think if it's followed up by even a "...but what I feel like what we have is so much more meaningful than that," it's OK.

I always forget he did Sherlock, too!

Would it really be a teaching moment, though? I think that if we were silent on the subject of Hamm's package, it would just play into the continued narrative of women are less visual/sexual/etc. I don't know if the solution is to write an article like this, but I don't know if us taking the "high road" would make…

This explains so much about Dr. Who.

Thanks for that clarification.

I am not advocating for trickle-down equality. I'm not saying that the Second Wave wasn't incredibly limited in its efforts for improving the rights of all women. I appreciate your thoughts on this.

You make so many points that I'm cheering along here, so it's frustrating me that I feel like you've chosen to see me as a particular brand of white feminist, making arguments that—if you read my comments—I never made. I didn't make the argument that women of color have equal access to reproductive rights as white…

Do you really think so? I guess it does if you think of it in terms of, "I did the dishes and I said something nice to you earlier and I am really horny, so I deserve this!" But I was thinking of it in terms of, "We are in a relationship and we care about each other." In that situation, you "deserve" to have your…

Absolutely. But that improved since the work of the Second Wave—although not, I concede, to the degree that it should have.

Maybe I didn't communicate this well. I thought I made it very clear in all of my comments that I understand, acknowledge, and bemoan the fact that women of color were blatantly ignored in a lot of the work of the Second Wave. It's a huge failure of the movement. I was questioning whether that means that all women,…

Holy shit! Every comment I said here was prefaced with acknowledging and bemoaning the weaknesses of the Second Wave with regards to women of color. I was questioning whether that automatically means the Second Wave provided no substantive help for women of all races.